Are you ready to put the chill back into “Netflix & Chill”? Getting in the mood for sex can be difficult – mismatched libidos, life stresses, burn out – you name it, there are a lot of things that can get in the way of your sexy time. But watching porn sites for couples can help you get in the mood for sex, discover new sexual fantasies, and spark some interesting and insightful conversations with your partner. Not to mention it can also be a very hot date night activity.🔥
Watching porn with your partner presents a lot of opportunities to talk about what you’re watching, and whether it’s a turn on or a turn off for you. It’s a great way to open up a conversation about sexual interests. It may also result in better sex for the two of you as you learn more about your and your partner’s desires.
One study published in the Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy found that couples who watch pornography together report a positive association with sexual intimacy, and couples who increased their porn-watching together also reported greater sexual intimacy.
Sounds good right. But where do you start? The internet is full of porn, but you need to do some research to find something that is ethical and turns both of you on.
Read our guide to watching porn with your partner first and open a dialogue with your lover about watching porn together. If you both agree to go forward with it, first discuss what type of porn you would each like to watch and what’s important for you to see on screen.
This could be queer people, BIPOC performers, cunnilingus, pegging, bondage, romance, real couples… whatever turns you on. Once you’ve both outlined what’s important to each of you, it will be easier to know where to look for your porn.
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To help you get started, we’ve collected 5 of our favorite porn sites for couples. Have a browse and see what interests you.
5 porn sites for couples ❤️
afterglow(this website!)
We know that porn is correlated with increased sexual satisfaction, greater desire and arousal during partnered sex, so we’re serving you sexy, ethical porn films that are perfect to watch with your partner. If you want to see a diverse range of bodies, relationship types, sex acts, and more – this is for you. And, a subscription to afterglow gives you more than just porn. Find partnered exercises to improve communication & intimacy, guided masturbations for solo play, articles to inspire your sex life, and eduporn videos that teach as well as arouse. Watch, learn, practice, and enjoy better sex.
Sssh.com
If you and your partner like to watch mainstream style porn whilst knowing that it was made ethically, Sssh.com is, in its own words, “porn, re-imagined.” Whether you want to dig into some fantasy porn, or have a particular fetish you want to watch, it probably exists on Sssh.com. The site is also home to pornographic images and explicit stories. Try out different adult formats and see what works for you.
Lustery
A porn site for people who are into real life couples and amateur porn, Lustery is real-life porn for couples, created by couples. The format feels user-submitted, but with a slightly more curated feel. The sex videos show real emotion and intimacy between couples, so if you and your partner want to get inspired and amp up the romance in your relationship, this is the site for you. With a range of bodies, sexualities, sex styles, you’ll be able to find something that suits you. Maybe you’ll even decide to shoot your own porn with your partner and upload it to the site…
XConfessions
Well-known adult filmmaker Erika Lust started XConfessions in 2003 as a place for people to share sexual confessions. Today, the website is home to a large collection of indie, short films based on confessions submitted by the community. The films are highly produced, cinematic and visually appealing. If you and your partner are into cinema then this is the site for you. Also, while you’re there, why not write and submit your own sexual fantasy to be considered for a future film?
Make Love Not Porn
Another site for real couples. This website is home to hundreds, if not thousands, of real life couples having sex. It calls itself “social sex” and it certainly isn’t your typical porn website. The films are hot and amateur, but they can also work as inspiration for your sex life. If you and your partner want to watch real life couples in homemade, less produced videos – this is for you.
Crash Pad Series
If you and your partner want to see queer sex and real diversity on screen, CrashPad Series is the site for you. The site features performers from the LGBTQ+ community and includes people of color, people of size, older queers, and people with disabilities. Performers choose what they want to do on camera, so it’s common to see safer sex, role-play with onscreen check-ins and communication, strap-ons, kink and BDSM, orgasms and aftercare.
Alternatives to porn sites for couples
Audio porn: Quinn
If visual porn is too much for you to watch with your partner, or you want to ease your way into watching porn, then why not start with audio porn? Enter, Quinn. The app is full to the brim of audio-only erotic stories and situations. Lay down with your partner, start listening together, and let each of your imaginations do the rest for you. Without having the visual aid of watching people perform, audio sex stories allow you to take an active role in shaping the scenes.
Erotic literature
Have you tried reading erotic literature yet? It can be a super intimate experience to do with your partner before bed. It’s also another erotic aid that lets your imaginations do what they do best. If you or your partner find watching porn together distracting because one of you ends up comparing themselves to the performers in the video, erotic literature can be a great alternative.
Here are three of our favorite sexy books to inspire you.
1. Bad Behaviour by Mary Gaitskill – set in 1980s New York, these stories of desire caused a sensation with their frank portrayals of men and women’s secret lives. Populated by characters looking for connection in cities late at night, this is a fierce collection of stories about love, sex and obsession.
2. The First Bad Man by Miranda July – sure to make you laugh as well as turn you on. If you don’t like to take sex too seriously, this is the book for you. Cherly Glickman, a middle-aged woman who works at a women’s self-defense non-profit, is the protagonist of this novel. Her life is turned upside down when her boss’ 19-year-old daughter moves into her flat. It’s quirky, a little strange, and sure to spark up some interesting conversations with your partner.
3. The Sexual Life of Catherine M. by Catherine Millet – set in Paris, this is an explicit, to the point account of a French art critic & editor’s sex life. The novel sparked controversy when it was released due to the lack of sentimentality. That’s exactly why we love it. There’s no messing around, we’re launched straight into group sex, anonymous hook ups, public sex, and more.
So, where will you start? Read through this with your partner and see which couples porn site gets you the most excited.
Want to know more? Read The Ultimate Guide to Porn for Couples.
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