Nancy and Noble have been together for 20 years and enjoy using porn in their relationship as a shared intimate act. Although it’s hard to find time in their busy schedules with children and work, they have fun watching afterglow together when they can.
“We are very sexually active. We’re in an open marriage. We’re swingers and we’re very promiscuous, you could say,” Noble explains.
But despite their lifestyle, they have the same challenges as a lot of couples when it comes to finding time for intimacy and finding porn that they enjoy watching together.
Like others, the couple have found it difficult to find movies to watch together on the mainstream tube sites. Noble explains that he likes to think of Nancy when he’s watching porn, something that he struggled to do with more stereotypical porn.
“She’s still the biggest turn on in my life… I like to watch porn with my wife’s body type, not as a fetish but because it reminds me of her”, he explains. “I like afterglow cos it seems like she could be in one of those movies and it would be a natural fit.”
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Porn is an intimate thing to do together as a couple
Research has found that couples who watch porn together report a positive association with sexual intimacy. When they increased their communal porn-watching, they also reported greater sexual intimacy. So it’s no surprise that Nancy & Noble use porn as an intimate activity.
“It’s an intimate thing to do with my husband”, Nancy agrees. “It’s something we enjoy doing together. It’s fun and it also enhances our sex life at the same time”.
“She’s still the biggest turn on in my life… I like to watch porn with my wife’s body type, not as a fetish but because it reminds me of her”
But it has to fit around work, life, and kids
The couple both work full time and have children, so with a busy family life, there isn’t much time to watch porn together.
“We have a house, but it’s small, and the kids are running up and down the stairs all the time,” Noble says. “When we’re home alone we usually have only 15 minutes to spend together. So having [porn] there is a nice way to quickly get us in the mood.”
Despite their lack of time, they’ve found ways to fit porn around their schedule when they can.
“We have to duck in and duck out whenever we have time,” Nancy adds. “We’re usually already in bed when we watch it, like in the morning before the kids get up or late at night when we’re going to bed.”
“Or on the weekends, if we’re having a lazy sunday we’ll watch it for a while”, Noble adds.
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Choosing porn that they like
While there isn’t one specific porn genre that the couple gravitate to, they know exactly what they don’t want to watch.
“We’re an interracial couple and we often find that most interracial porn is just a black man with a white woman. It’s never the other way round, and we don’t like the fetishising of it. We’ve been to swinging parties in the past where they will play that specific type of porn and it’s a turn off,“ Nancy says.
Like others, the couple are also put off by some of the titles of movies on the free tube sites.
“There’s a lot of ‘daddy screwing’, and ‘my stepdad cornered me in the office’ themes”, Noble says. “I’ll go on standard sites and most of it is for the traditional male gaze. I’m a man so obviously the male gaze is for me, but I still run into films that I don’t like. It really frustrates me and I know that’s something that I don’t want to be a part of my sex life with my wife.”
“We’re an interracial couple and we often find that most interracial porn is just a black man with a white woman. It’s never the other way round, and we don’t like the fetishising of it.”
Finding porn they can relate to on afterglow
The couple discovered afterglow pretty early on and they enjoy seeing people that they can relate to on the site.
“We’ve looked at other sites and at more conventional stuff but afterglow feels like something a bit more special.”, Noble says. “It seemed like something we could watch together. It’s much more balanced and it has a healthier attitude towards the whole genre.”
“We like afterglow because it’s more natural looking than the average porn. It features everyday people that we can relate to so it’s more appealing to me in that sense. It feels less staged”, Nancy adds.
Porn help when there’s no time to go to swinging parties
Nancy and Noble are in an open marriage and enjoy going to swinging parties when they can. However, with their busy lives it’s not always possible to make it to parties, which is where porn steps in.
“We try to go to swinging parties as often as possible but our kids and our schedules make it very hard. We usually send the kids away in the summer so our summer time is really our time to play. And otherwise our lives are really hectic.”, Noble says. “So porn helps us to have something that we can quickly use, and it scratches that play itch, if we’re not able to go to an actual party.”
“afterglow features everyday people that we can relate to so it’s more appealing to me in that sense. It feels less staged”
But, they like to keep porn separate from swinging
The couple explain how porn is often used at swinging parties or in swinging lifestyle resorts to get people in the mood for sex. But, in their experience, it doesn’t tend to be the type of porn they enjoy watching.
“We like to keep porn separate from our swinging lifestyle because when you go to swinging parties or to swinging lifestyle resorts, they are always showing a very specific type of mainstream porn,” Nancy says.
“It’s always PornHub style stuff and for me that’s a big turn off. It’s put on a lot to get you in the mood but for me it’s distracting and it’s a turn off. I don’t want to see the same thing over and over again, which is all you see on those sites,” she adds.
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