Written by Julia Svirid

Can what seems like a regular situation, such as a gynecological check-up, be turned into a playful erotic game? Absolutely yes! This queer feminist erotic comedy, “Naughty Patient,” is living proof of that. We get to see how communication between the patient and the gynecologist created safety, how techniques created fun, and how power dynamics added spice to this perfect recipe for pleasure – all of that with empowering messages about the female body and historical side notes.

What You Can Learn

• Communication during sex not only maximizes pleasure but is also hot.
• Stopping when things get too intense or unpleasant is absolutely normal.
• There are multiple ways to please the vulva – being creative and finding your personal style is what makes it truly fun.
• Fisting, done with the right preparation, can be an extremely intimate practice.
• It is the submissive who is truly holding the power.
• Setting boundaries before sex is a key element for safe power-dynamic play.

Key Themes 

• Communication around sex
• Vulva-pleasing techniques
• Power dynamics

Communication Around Sex

Did you notice how the gynecologist and the patient communicated both verbally and non-verbally throughout the entire experience? Did you also notice how it added to the amount of pleasure they both felt?

That’s exactly what the right communication around sex does, busting the common myth that “if everything is known and talked about, it’s not fun anymore.” The findings of a 2021 study confirmed a positive association between sexual communication and sexual satisfaction.

Many people still have difficulties talking about sex, mainly because of shame, awkwardness, or lack of vocabulary. That’s why, if you are new to sex talk, it’s recommended to start slowly, schedule a time when you can talk about it, and use words that are comfortable for you at the moment, expanding your vocabulary over time. As part of the preparation, it’s good to think about what you’d like to say. Share a fantasy? Set a boundary? Discuss your mutual experience?

Vulva-pleasing Techniques

The gynecologist does an absolutely brilliant job showing various techniques for how a vulva can be pleased: light air blowing, tickling, gentle caressing, applying pressure on the outer lips, licking around, licking directly, fingering, slapping, kissing, G-spot stimulation, clitoral stimulation, and fisting (the practice of putting the whole hand inside the vagina).

On top of that, they played around with changing positions, rhythm, and intensity.

While those are absolutely amazing, don’t take them as direct instructions. Everybody’s body is unique! A 2018 study has confirmed that vulva owners have diverse preferences for genital touch location, pressure, shape, and pattern.

Instead, let them inspire you to explore how your or your partner’s vulva and vagina can be stimulated. Make sure to stay present throughout the process, using your breath as an anchor. Incorporating mindfulness practices into your daily life can help with that. Take things slowly and remember to communicate, especially when trying a new technique. That’s exactly what the gynecologist did – she paid close attention to all the signals and communicated clearly.

Power Dynamics

It was so much fun watching their power dynamic, wasn’t it? It’s clear that the gynecologist, due to her role, was the one leading and “bossing around” from the very beginning. Thanks to that, the patient had the chance to let go and enjoy.

Anyone can take either the dominant or submissive role at any point. Some people have a strong preference for one or the other, while some like to switch. Either way, the most important thing is to do what feels right for you – in a consensual and safe way.

What’s absolutely necessary for power play to happen are clear boundaries. We see the actresses discussing them before the shooting. Without those boundaries, neither the dominant nor the submissive can truly feel safe and enjoy. That’s why, if you are planning to indulge in any kind of BDSM experience, make sure to talk beforehand and create a so-called “contract.”

Did You Notice

Did you notice how the patient said, “It’s too intense,” during the fisting practice, and the doctor stopped immediately? This is a perfect example of how it is the submissive (the patient) who truly holds the power, not the dominant (the gynecologist). This underlying, non-obvious element of power play can make us rethink our own role within it.

Questions to Consider

• Which part of the communication around sex did you find the hottest for you and which were rather annoying or unnecessary? 
• Which part of sexual communication do you find challenging to include in your own experiences? Which part feels easy for you?
• Which techniques of vulva-pleasing turned you on? Which ones turned you off?
• Which techniques would you like to try in real life?
• Which role did you identify with more – the patient (submissive) or the gynecologist (dominant) – and why?
• What sexual fantasy do you have that could be “just a regular situation”?
  
  

Resources

• Mallory AB. Dimensions of couples’ sexual communication, relationship satisfaction, and sexual satisfaction: A meta-analysis. J Fam Psychol. 2022 Apr;36(3):358-371. doi: 10.1037/fam0000946. Epub 2021 Dec 30. PMID: 34968095; PMCID: PMC9153093.
• Herbenick D, Fu TJ, Arter J, Sanders SA, Dodge B. Women’s Experiences With Genital Touching, Sexual Pleasure, and Orgasm: Results From a U.S. Probability Sample of Women Ages 18 to 94. J Sex Marital Ther. 2018 Feb 17;44(2):201-212. doi: 10.1080/0092623X.2017.1346530. Epub 2017 Aug 9. PMID: 28678639.