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Beginner’s Guide: How to Use a Butt Plug

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Beginner’s Guide: How to Use a Butt Plug

Have you heard about the magical wonders of butt plugs? These versatile toys are perfect for anyone and everyone, regardless of your gender, orientation, or anatomy. Butt plugs are a fantastic way to safely and comfortably explore new sexual territory. Whether you’re a beginner or an anal aficionado, they’re perfect for switching up your routine and getting your body ready for even more excitement. If you’re not sure how to use a butt plug, we’ve got you covered.

For those with a prostate, butt plugs offer tantalizing stimulation, while those with a vagina can experience intense pleasure from the pressure on the back vaginal wall. And let’s not forget about all those nerve endings around the anus – it’s a hot spot for a reason.

And if you’re new to the world of anal play, don’t worry – butt plugs are a great place to start. They come in all sorts of materials and designs, including silicone, vibrating, glass, and even ones designed specifically for prostate massage. Plus, wearing one during any kind of sexual activity can enhance your pleasure and even lead to mind-blowing orgasms.

We’ve got all the tips and tricks you need for a safe, comfortable, and oh-so-sexy experience.

What is a butt plug?

Butt plugs do as their name suggests – they plug your butt. But that’s not all they do. Their main mission is to make you feel good. We all know the anus can be a source of incredible pleasure, and butt plugs (with plenty of lube) are the perfect way to start exploring anal play. They’re especially popular for those who are gearing up for penetrative anal sex but they can also be worn during other sex activities and are also loved by those who don’t intend to have anal se., 

Butt plugs are designed with function in mind – they typically have a tapered tip that widens in the middle and narrows again at the base to fit comfortably in your butt. And don’t worry about it getting lost up there – a flared base, pull cord, or ring prevents it from going anywhere it shouldn’t. We definitely don’t want anyone to end up in the ER with a viral story about a lost butt plug. 

display of butt plugs

Who are butt plugs for?

Butt plugs don’t discriminate. Anyone and everyone can enjoy them. 

One of the biggest myths out there is that women and vulva bodies don’t enjoy anal play, and only do it to please their partner. That couldn’t be further from the truth – using a butt plug can actually make all kinds of sex more pleasurable for people with vaginas.

Another myth is that they’re only for LGBTQ+ people. Again, this couldn’t be further from the truth. Heterosexual, cisgender men can enjoy them too, without it affecting their sexuality in any way. Don’t let outdated beliefs hold you back from exploring all the fun that a butt plug can bring to your sex life!

Why use a butt plug? 

Butt plugs are not just for prepping your backdoor for action. They have many other uses too. For example, some people in the BDSM community use them as part of dominance and submission play. And if you have a vagina, a butt plug can be one of the easiest ways to experience double penetration whilst having penetrative sex with your partner or a sex toy. You can also use butt plugs during your solo sex sessions whilst stimulating your clit with a vibrator or your fingers. The bottom line is, anyone can enjoy the delights of anal pleasure with a butt plug.

Read next: How to Get into Butt Stuff (By Yourself)  

Choosing the right butt plug

Choosing a butt plug for the first time can be intimidating, but fear not! There are a few things to consider that will make the process easier and help ensure a comfortable, safe, and enjoyable experience.

Start small  

First and foremost, size matters. Don’t let your eyes be bigger than your butt. It’s essential to start small and gradually work your way up to larger sizes. This is especially important for beginners who may not be accustomed to the sensation of having something in their rectum. A small butt plug with a narrow tip is an excellent choice for a first-timer. Once you’re more comfortable, you can move up to larger sizes or plugs with more features.

Think about what it’s made from 

Material is another crucial consideration. Butt plugs come in a variety of materials, including silicone, glass, metal, and even wood. Silicone is a popular choice for beginners as it’s soft and flexible, making it easy to insert and comfortable to wear. Glass and metal are excellent options for those who want something more rigid and weighty. These materials are also non-porous, which means they’re easy to clean and won’t harbor bacteria. However, they can be more challenging to insert than silicone or rubber.

Shape matters  

The shape of the butt plug is also important. As mentioned earlier, most butt plugs have a narrow tip that widens toward the base. This shape is designed to provide a comfortable fit while preventing the plug from getting lost inside the rectum. Some butt plugs have a curved shape or a bulbous head, which can provide additional stimulation to the prostate or G-spot.


Finally, consider any additional features you may want in a butt plug. Some plugs have a vibrating function that can add an extra level of stimulation. Others have a flared base or a pull cord for easy removal. Think about what you want to get out of the experience and choose a butt plug that fits those needs.

How to use a butt plug in 5 steps 

Follow these 5 steps 

1. Prepare with relaxation techniques 

Before using a butt plug for the first time, it’s essential to relax both your body and mind. The rectal area contains many nerve endings and muscles, which can tense up when you’re feeling anxious or uncomfortable. Therefore, taking some time to unwind and de-stress can make the experience much more enjoyable.

One way to relax before using a butt plug is through deep breathing exercises. Sit or lie down in a comfortable position and take a few slow, deep breaths. Inhale deeply through your nose, hold for a few seconds, and exhale slowly through your mouth. Repeat this several times until you feel your muscles start to loosen up and your mind begins to calm down.

Some people also find that incorporating meditation or mindfulness practices into their pre-butt plug routine can be helpful. Try the afterglow 5-minute pre-pleasure meditation to relax and prepare for pleasure. Created to help you to ground and get out of your head. Try this meditation before anal play and notice the difference it has on being able to open yourself up to pleasure and let go.

Remember, the key to a pleasurable experience with a butt plug is taking things slow, being gentle, and paying attention to your body’s cues.

2. Lube, lube, and more lube

Using plenty of lube is essential when using a butt plug, as the rectum doesn’t naturally lubricate like the vagina does. Without enough lubrication, inserting a butt plug can cause discomfort, pain, and even injury. It’s crucial to use a high-quality lube to ensure a smooth and safe experience.

Lubes designed for anal play tend to be thicker and longer-lasting, providing a more comfortable and enjoyable experience. They also help to reduce friction and discomfort, making it easier for the plug to slide in and out smoothly.

Water-based lubes are an excellent option for butt plugs, as they are safe to use with all types of sex toys and condoms. Silicone-based lubes are also suitable for butt plugs made from glass and metal, but cannot be used with those made from silicone. If you’re using a silicone butt plug, it’s important to use a water-based lube and silicone lube can damage and degrade the plug, leading to small cracks and tears that can trap bacteria and cause infection. 

Remember to reapply lube as needed during use, as the rectum can absorb the lubrication and make it less effective over time. Don’t be afraid to use a generous amount of lube, as it will make the experience more comfortable and enjoyable.  

3. Wearing and enjoying the butt plug

Once you’ve chosen your butt plug, applied plenty of lube, and relaxed your mind and body, it’s time to start wearing it. The duration you wear the butt plug for can depend on your personal preference and experience level. For beginners, it’s recommended to start with shorter durations, such as 10-15 minutes, and gradually increase the time as you feel comfortable. Experienced users can wear butt plugs for hours, even during daily activities like shopping or working from home.

The position you wear the butt plug in can also affect your experience. Some people prefer to wear it while lying on their stomach, while others prefer standing, sitting, or even walking around. It’s important to listen to your body and find a position that feels comfortable and secure.

During sex or masturbation, wearing a butt plug can enhance pleasure and lead to more intense orgasms. For those with a vagina, wearing a butt plug during vaginal penetration can create a sensation of fullness and pressure that can be incredibly pleasurable. For those with a prostate, wearing a butt plug during masturbation or sex can stimulate the prostate and lead to intense orgasms. Experimenting with different positions and activities while wearing a butt plug can also enhance the experience.

To enhance the experience even further, try incorporating other forms of stimulation. For example, using a vibrator or masturbating while wearing a butt plug can lead to even more intense sensations. Communicating with your partner or yourself during the experience can also heighten the pleasure and lead to a more satisfying experience overall.

Remember, safety should always come first when using a butt plug. Don’t push yourself too far, too fast, and always listen to your body. With practice, patience, and communication, using a butt plug can be a fun and pleasurable addition to your sexual repertoire.

4. Removing and cleaning the butt plug

Removing and cleaning your butt plug after use is just as important as wearing it. To remove the plug, gently pull on the base or ring. It’s important not to rush this step, as the rectum can be sensitive and removing the plug too quickly can cause discomfort or injury. If you feel any resistance, stop pulling and try relaxing your muscles or adding more lube. 

After removing the plug, it’s time to clean it thoroughly. You can wash it with warm water and mild soap, or use a sex toy cleaner specifically designed for this purpose. Be sure to clean the entire plug, including any crevices or ridges, and rinse it well to remove any residue. Some butt plugs can also be sterilized by boiling them in water for a few minutes, but make sure to check the manufacturer’s instructions first.

It’s important to store your butt plug properly to keep it clean and hygienic. You can use a designated storage bag or container, or simply wrap it in a clean cloth or towel. Avoid storing it in direct sunlight or high temperatures, and keep it away from other sex toys to prevent them from touching and potentially transferring bacteria or other contaminants.

Prefer to watch & learn? 

Kate Marley

Watch Pegging Pleasure on afterglow and see how real-life married couple Chris and Kate Marley use a butt plug as part of their anal play. Watch out for: 

  • How Kate warms Chris up slowly and gently, massaging his penis and balls before going to his butt 
  • How she cleans his rectum 
  • The mount of lube she applies to the toy 
  • The insertion of the plug whilst stimulating his penis 
  • How she starts small and works her way up to bigger toys 
  • Finally, see how butt plugs can be used to prepare you for other anal play activities such as pegging 

JWatch Pegging Pleasure on afterglow 


4 common mistakes to avoid  

Using a butt plug for the first time can be a nerve-wracking experience, but there are a few common mistakes that you can avoid to make the experience smoother and more enjoyable. 

Mistake #1 – Rushing into it 

Firstly, never rush into using a butt plug. Take the time to relax and prepare your body properly, both physically and mentally. Trying to force a butt plug in can lead to discomfort or even injury, which can be very unpleasant. Remember, it’s important to start with a small size and work your way up slowly. Don’t go too big too soon.

Mistake #2 – Not enough lube 

Another mistake to avoid is not using enough lube. Using lots of lube is essential for a comfortable and safe experience. Don’t be shy with the lube, apply it liberally to both the butt plug and your anus. This will ensure that the plug can be easily inserted and removed, and will reduce the risk of injury.

Mistake #3 – Not listening to your body 

It’s also important to listen to your body. If something doesn’t feel right, stop immediately. Discomfort is not normal and can be a sign that you need to slow down, adjust your position, or remove the plug altogether. Don’t be afraid to experiment with different positions and movements to find what works best for you.

Mistake #4 – Sharing your butt plug 

Another mistake to avoid is sharing your butt plug with others. Sharing sex toys can lead to the transmission of sexually transmitted infections, and it’s important to keep your toys clean and hygienic. Always clean your butt plug thoroughly after use and store it in a safe, dry place.

Don’t forget to have fun and enjoy the experience. By following these guidelines and experimenting with different positions and activities, you can discover a whole new world of pleasure and intimacy. Just remember to take it slow, be patient with yourself, and always prioritize your safety and well-being.


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