Chances are, you’ve got a butt and it’s not getting the attention it deserves. Whether you’re hesitant to engage in butt stuff due to social stigma, you’re worried about discomfort, or you simply don’t know what all the fuss is about, we’re here to change your mind.  

Trust us, your booty is worth spoiling. That fine derrière is a powerhouse of potential pleasure, packed with a ton of nerve endings and blood vessels. So, grab a pillow and get ready to learn how to treat yourself to some satisfying sensations.

Why explore butt stuff alone 

Regardless of whether you want to try it with a partner in the future or not, bringing some butt play into your solo sex sessions can be beneficial for several reasons. 

1. It’s an opportunity to figure out what you like at your own pace and become familiar with your own body and preferences. You can gain valuable insights into your own desires and boundaries, which can ultimately lead to a more satisfying and fulfilling sexual experience with a partner.
2. It can be an empowering act of self-discovery and self-pleasure that shows that you can be responsible for your own pleasure and give your body everything it desires, which can enhance your overall sexual confidence and well-being.  
3. You are in total control, and you can stop immediately if something becomes painful or too uncomfortable. 
4. Once you’ve figured out what it is you like up and around your butt, you can move onto more advanced play that might involve toys, or partners, or specific kinks.
5. If you’re nervous about poop, exploring anal play alone first will help you feel more comfortable and see that there isn’t a lot to worry about. 

Aside from all of this, frankly the why is unimportant… let’s look at the how. 😉

Prefer to watch & learn? 

In Siri Dahl’s Self-Love Routine, Siri takes you inside her bedroom to show how she gives herself pleasure. From a butt plug to anal play with a dildo – she’ll inspire you and show you how to bring butt stuff into your own self-pleasure session.  Look out for: 

• How she turns herself on first before going into anal play 
• How she uses her fingers to tease the outside of her butt first  
• The lube she keeps adding to her butt before and during using a toy 
• How she builds up to using a toy by starting with a butt plug 
• The pleasure she gets from removing her butt plug 
• How she stimulates her clit and her vagina at the same time 

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How to explore butt stuff alone

Once you’ve made the decision to give it a try, anal play can be done safely with relative ease. Here are some steps to follow.

1. Don’t stress about the poop thing  

Here’s the deal: you gotta be comfortable with your body and all its functions if you want to have a good time. Sure, poop can be kinda scary, but it’s actually a sign that everything’s working just the way it should. So, try not to stress too much about it, or you’ll have a hard time relaxing. And relaxation is the key to the whole thing.

It’s important to remember that poop is stored in the colon, not the anus. So while there may be trace amounts present, which may sometimes show up on a finger/toy/penis/condom, it’s usually a very minimal amount. 

With this understanding, in general anal douching before butt play is not usually necessary. Most people find that taking a shower and using a neutral, body-friendly soap is sufficient. But if you’re still worried about the potential for mess then wear medical gloves or finger cots to keep things clean. And once you’re done, simply throw them away. 

Just so you know, it’s not a given that there will be any poop involved at all. But even if there is, it’s totally no big deal. 

2. Relax and get turned on first 

To really enjoy the experience, it’s crucial to be relaxed and turned on first. Taking your time and working your way up to it is key. To get yourself in the right headspace, try doing some deep breathing exercises or give yourself a little massage to release any tension you might be holding onto.  

Try our 5-minute pre-pleasure meditation to relax and prepare for pleasure. Created to help you to ground and get out of your head. Try this meditation before anal play and notice the difference it has on being able to open yourself up to pleasure and let go.

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It’s also important to create a calm environment for yourself. Make sure you’re in a comfortable space, whether it’s your bed or a cozy spot on the couch. Play some relaxing music and light some candles to create a calming atmosphere. Anything that helps you feel relaxed and at ease will do the trick. 

Then, once you’re feeling relaxed and ready to get down with some anal play, it’s time to get turned on. You know what gets you going, whether it’s watching your favorite porn film or daydreaming about your ultimate sexual fantasy, so use your usual tools to get yourself in the mood. 

Getting aroused does more than just make you feel good, it also helps to relax your pelvic floor muscles and your anus. This means that it’ll be easier to get things going, and you won’t have to worry about clenching up or feeling uncomfortable. 

Plus, getting turned on shifts where things land on the pleasure/pain spectrum. So, something that might have felt meh or even a little uncomfortable before can feel freaking amazing once you’re fully aroused. 

3. Start on the outside of your butt 

Alright, so you’re relaxed, turned on, and ready to start exploring. Now, take your time focusing on the external part of the anus. Start by gently massaging and stimulating the area around the anus. Use different types of  light touch, experimenting with pressure, and explore what feels good. Continue for as long as you enjoy it. 

While internal stimulation can definitely be great, you don’t actually need to put anything inside your butt for it to feel amazing. The external part is a goldmine of nerve endings and you might be surprised at how pleasurable it can feel. 

4. If you are going to penetrate, use all of the lube 

Lube is an absolute non-negotiable for butt penetration. Spit isn’t gonna cut it here. 

There are several types of lubes available, each with its own advantages and disadvantages. It’s important to choose the appropriate lube for the activity and the materials involved. 

• The most common lube to use for anal play is silicone-based because it’s a thicker lube that creates more of a cushion. It also lasts longer which means you don’t have to apply it as often and it’s ideal for prolonged sessions. But it can’t be used with some silicone toys as it can cause degradation, so bear this in mind. 
• Water-based lube is compatible with all toys and barrier methods and is easily washed off, but it requires frequent reapplication as it absorbs quickly. 
• Oil-based lube provides both lubrication and hydration, making it ideal for sensitive skin, but it is not compatible with latex or polyisoprene barriers such as condoms. 

Be sure to avoid numbing lube as it can mask discomfort and pain, which is a sign that something is not right. Anal sex should never be painful, and any discomfort should be addressed immediately. 

5. Start with a finger 

If you want to start exploring the inside of your anus, your fingers are the perfect starting point. They’re small, they’re free, and you have complete control over them. 

But before you get started, make sure to prep your fingers properly. Trim your fingernails and file them down so they’re smooth. And of course, make sure your hands are clean. You don’t want any unwanted bacteria making their way into your sensitive bits. 

Once you’re prepped and ready to go, get into a comfortable position. Lying on your side with your knees bent can give you better access than lying on your back.  

Take a deep breath and start pushing your finger inside very slowly. This is new territory, so don’t get discouraged if it takes a few minutes to get the hang of things. And if you feel like your finger is stuck or it’s hard to push forward, don’t force it. Take a break, remove your finger, and add more lube before trying again. 

Once your finger is in, explore with different types of touch. Apply pressure to the front wall and see how that feels. Make small circular motions with the pads of your fingers and see if you like that. There’s no right or wrong here, just time to explore and see what your body likes. 

Remember, it’s not a race to the finish line. Take things slow and steady, and listen to your body.. With the right mindset and a little bit of patience, you’ll be ready to explore new and exciting ways to enjoy your body.

6. Try an anal plug 

Anal plugs are  a superb addition to butt play during masturbation even if you’re not trying to become an ass aficionado. As the name suggests, they essentially “plug” the butt and stimulate the opening and first few sensitive inches of your anus. 

Plugs are designed to ease into your body and then sit there, filling your body, rubbing against your sex organs from the inside. If you look at many plugs, there is a narrow tip that gets gradually larger and a base that tapers back down before the flare. This is great for keeping a plug in place- – your sphincters will squeeze down around the thinner base so it doesn’t move around unless you want it to. 

To insert the toy, take a deep breath and take your time. Add more lube to the outside of your anus and try to focus on relaxing your butt. The same goes for removing it – add more lube and take your time. Taking a plug out can feel just as intense as putting it in. 

Use butt plugs as often as you want, the more you practice, the easier it will be. Once it feels comfortable to put in and take out, then you can move up to a bigger butt plug or a small toy. 

7. Then try anal play toys  

When you’re ready to try a toy, look for smooth dildos that are a comfortable size for you. To start with, it’s recommended to begin with smaller anal toys that are thinner and easier to insert. This isn’t the time to be a size queen! 

Glass toys are great for sliding in and out of a body. Softer silicone dildos conform to your body’s shape while silicone with a harder density is great for hitting G or P-spots. 

These toys can help you become more comfortable with penetration and gradually build up to larger toys as you feel more confident. Some anal play sets also come with multiple sizes for you to work your way up at your own pace – these sets can be great for beginners to invest in when they;re just getting started. 

8. Try stimulating something else at the same time 

You know what they say, two pleasures are better than one. While butt play can be a lot of fun by itself, adding some extra stimulation to your other body parts can really spice things up.

Playing with your clitoris, penetrating your vagina, or stroking your penis can all feel amazing when combined with anal play. By exploring different types of stimulation and mixing things up, you can discover new levels of pleasure.  

9. Clean up after butt stuff 

This goes for yourself of course, but also the equipment you’ve used. Cleaning sex toys and other penetrative objects after butt play can reduce the risk of spreading bacteria next time you use them. Clean each toy after use and avoid storing dirty toys, since this encourages the growth of bacteria.

How you clean your sex toy will depend on what it’s made of:

• Glass and stainless-steel: Soap and water will do the trick.
• Hard plastic: Wipe it down with antibacterial wipes or use antibacterial soap.
• Silicone: Boil for 5-10 minutes. They can also be cleaned with antibacterial soap or wipes.
• Electrical toy: Unplug it and follow the manufacturer’s instructions for cleaning. Don’t get the cord or any electrical parts wet, and make sure it’s completely dry before using it again.

If you prefer to skip the cleaning process then you can use condoms on your toys instead. They’re safe to use on many toys, and it reduces the need to clean them whilst lowering the risk of spreading infections.   

Extra things to remember 

1. Butt play shouldn’t hurt 

Initially, butt play may feel slightly uncomfortable, but it should not cause pain. If pain occurs, it may indicate an underlying issue, and adding lubrication, trying different positions, and ensuring that you are turned on and relaxed can alleviate the problem. 

However, if you experience a sharp or throbbing pain, it’s best to take a break. Remove the toy or your finger and wait a day or two before trying again. It’s essential to remember that you should never force anything inside, and it should not be painful. 

Remember, anal play can be enjoyable and even orgasmic, but it should never come at the expense of your comfort (unless that’s what you’re into).  

2. Don’t double dip

If you have a vulva, never go back to front without cleaning your hands/butt plug/toy. The bacteria in poop can wreak havoc on the urinary tract. 

The bottom line

Having fun with the butt can be a blast, and chasing an anal orgasm is totally worth it. Even if you don’t quite get there, chances are you’ll still have a great time. Just take it easy, be ready, and enjoy all the good feels that butt play offers.

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