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How To Masturbate as a Woman: Quiz & Free Solo Pleasure Exercise

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How To Masturbate as a Woman: Quiz & Free Solo Pleasure Exercise

If you’re looking for more excitement and pleasure from sex then it’s pretty easy to find countless ideas of things to do with a partner… but what about with yourself? We can get in a sex rut with ourselves too but it can be hard to find advice on what to do. How to masturbate as a woman for more pleasure, more confidence, and a better understanding of your body and desires?  

Self pleasure is the greatest gift we have been given, but there is often so much untapped pleasure potential in all of us. 

So to help you on your journey, we’ve put together a quiz to help you find your masturbation style. At the end of the short quiz you’ll receive a free solo afterglow exercise based on your answers that will help you get out of your head and into your body for bigger, better orgasms.  

The exercises we recommend are the antidote to our fast paced masturbation routines. From a guided masturbation to a sensual undressing practice, you’ll learn how to slow down, get in tune with your sexuality, and deepen your connection to yourself. 

Take the quiz & get a free solo exercise: How to masturbate as a woman

When it comes to masturbating, there is no one-size-fits-all approach. What works for one person may not work for another. For best results, answer these questions as honestly as possible. Self pleasure is the perfect place to explore your fantasies and desires, you just need to let yourself hear them.  

And remember, our tastes and preferences change over time so feel free to take this quiz again as your interests change.

All of the guided exercises we recommend are afterglow originals. Created by sexologists and other experts, they offer a safe place to explore your desires from the comfort of your own home. 

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How to masturbate as a woman: Discover mindful self-pleasure 

When it comes to exploring your own body and finding out what turns you on, there is no wrong way to masturbate. However, some women find that they are able to reach a higher level of self-pleasure when they are mindful of their bodies and what feels good.

One of the great things about masturbating is that you can take your time and experiment with different techniques and speeds without feeling pressured to perform for anyone else. This allows you to really focus on your own pleasure and figure out exactly what gets you off.

It can also help you to connect with your body in a deeper way. By paying attention to your physical and emotional responses, you can learn more about what makes you feel good both mentally and physically. This knowledge can then be used to enhance other aspects of your sex life, such as communication with your partner and overall sexual satisfaction.

Read next: What is a guided masturbation?

Tips for a pleasurable solo experience

Now that you have a solo exercise to try, let’s dive into a few preparation tips before you start to make sure you have a fulfilling experience.   

Avoid setting a goal 

Other than to explore, discover and observe your body you should remove the goal of having an orgasm to release any pressure and help you relax deeper into the moment.  When we try to reach orgasm quickly or feel that we need to have  a certain type of experience, it can lead to frustration and pressure. Instead, focus on enjoying the sensations and pleasure without any expectation of a particular outcome. Self-pleasure can be an opportunity for exploration and discovery; it’s not about achieving any specific result.

Create a pleasurable environment 

Just because you don’t have anyone coming to join you doesn’t mean you don’t need to set the mood. Creating an environment that is conducive to relaxation will help you get into the right headspace for mindfully enjoying yourself. Dim the lights, light some candles or incense, put on some soothing music – do whatever it takes to make yourself feel comfortable and let go of any stress or distractions.

Check in with yourself before starting

Sometimes, when we’re masturbating we don’t afford ourselves the same love and attention we give to a partner during sex. Taking the time to check in with yourself before engaging in self-pleasure can help ensure that you are in a relaxed and comfortable state of mind. It also helps to set an intention for your experience, so that you can focus on what you want to get out of it. The more mindful and present you are during this practice, the more pleasure and satisfaction you will likely feel afterward. 

Some things to consider when checking in: 

– What do I need to make myself feel more comfortable or relaxed? 

– How am I feeling right now? 

– What is my intention for this session? 

– What kind of sensations would I like to explore? 

Consider taking a few deep breaths, giving yourself a massage, or doing a short pre-pleasure meditation before you start. Once you have taken the time to check in with yourself and set an intention, you can begin exploring. Mindful self-pleasure is all about connecting with your body and discovering what feels good for you. 


Another practice that we often don’t give to ourselves, make sure you have the time and space to give yourself some aftercare once you’re done. Aftercare is the process of taking care of your body and mind after any sort of pleasurable activity.

You might start by reflecting on your experience. Take a few moments to reflect on how you felt. What did you like? What didn’t you like? Was anything unexpected or surprising? Taking time to reflect on your experience can help you appreciate the pleasure that you experienced.

Also, allow time for rest and recovery. Engaging in self pleasure can be physically and mentally draining, so make sure to give yourself some time for rest and recovery afterwards. Try relaxing activities such as reading, listening to music, or taking a warm bath.

We hope these exercises have helped you learn how to masturbate as a woman for more pleasure and a deeper understanding of you needs and desires.

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