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What is Guided Masturbation? And Why You Should Practice It

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What is Guided Masturbation? And Why You Should Practice It

Are you getting yourself off? I hope so. 

Masturbation plays an important role in our lives. It’s a vital part of our mental and physical wellbeing. It can boost our self-esteem, help us sleep better, and relieve period cramps. Plus orgasms release endorphins, dopamine, and oxytocin, which reduce pain and leave us feeling happier and more relaxed.  

And, you know, it just feels really good. 

But most of us have a go-to masturbation practice that gets us off in as little time as possible. Instead of spending intentional time with ourselves by warming up our body, touching ourselves in new places, and exploring our capacity for pleasure – we know exactly how to touch ourselves to get in and out as fast as we can. 

Of course, there is a time and a place for quick orgasmic relief, but what about being more intentional with our sexuality? We are our primary sexual partners for our whole lives, so shouldn’t we give ourselves the care and affection we usually reserve for partners?

Combining self-care, mindfulness, and self-pleasure, guided masturbations are the antidote to our fast paced routines that help us tap into our bodies and our sexualities for life-changing pleasure experiences.

What is guided masturbation? 

A guided masturbation is an audio experience where someone guides you through the movements of self-pleasure. The purpose is to tell you how and where to touch yourself and it’s an excellent way to learn new things about your body and how to give it pleasure. 

They can range in style and intention. There are masturbation meditations which are like a naughtier version of guided meditations but instead of using your breath as a focal point, you also concentrate on pleasurable sensations that ground you in your body. There are also erotic stories that are more like audio porn, where you may be a voyeur or a participant in the story that you’re listening to. And there are guided masturbations that focus on getting you present and exploring different types of touch and technique.

The benefits of guided masturbation

Honor your body 

Guided masturbations can help deepen your connection to yourself and tap into the power of your sexuality. By remaining present to the physical and emotional sensations that come up, you allow your body to be your teacher. Listen and respond to what comes up and you may just experience transformational shifts in your relationship with others and yourself.   

Discover new techniques and areas of pleasure 

If you’re in a rut or you feel bored, guided masturbation can help introduce new ideas and skills. The instructional side of the videos may introduce you to new areas of sexual pleasure or undiscovered erogenous zones.

Learn how to vocalize your needs and desires 

If you struggle speaking up, a guided masturbation can help you understand your wants and needs. It can give you the language to ask a partner how to touch you, too. We often struggle to put our needs into words, but sometimes hearing someone else describe it is exactly what you need when you don’t know how to put it into words. 

Read next: Talking About Sex: A Guide to Communication 

Helps you get in the mood 

Spontaneous desire doesn’t always happen. More often than not, we need to build daily rituals that bring regular moments of sensuality into our lives. Guided masturbations can help you get in the mood, and if you do them regularly they can be a part of your daily wellness routine. 

Experience stronger orgasms 

Guided masturbations help you to slow down your normal routine. By taking your time with your pleasure, just like you would with a partner, you may find that you’re more relaxed and able to experience different types of orgasm. 

Practice mindfulness and embodiment 

Guided masturbation tells you when and how to please yourself so that you don’t need to think, you can just feel. They fall under the umbrella of mindful sex, an increasingly popular practice that merges self-pleasure and meditation. When mindfulness is applied to the way we pleasure ourselves it can help us move beyond a quick session and into a deeper connection with ourselves.  

Research has found that mindful sex can help with a number of sexual difficulties including low libido, body image, anxiety, trauma, erectile dysfunction and genital pain. Plus, according to other research women who practice mindfulness in general have better sex with higher arousal, desire, and better orgasms.

Before starting 

1. Avoid setting a goal 

Other than to explore, discover and observe your body you should remove the goal of having an orgasm to release any pressure and help you relax deeper into the moment.  

2. Set the space 

Choosing a safe space where you won’t be disturbed and where you feel relaxed, safe, and comfortable is key.  

3. Get curious

The idea is to be curious, let yourself feel every sensation and acknowledge what feels good and what doesn’t feel good. In the future, this level of knowledge will make you a better communicator during partnered sex which will make it a lot more pleasurable.  

How to start 

Now for the fun part… Follow these audio exercises for a deeper self-pleasure practice.

Warm up with this pre-masturbation exercise…

5-min pre-pleasure meditation

Relax and prepare for pleasure with this 5-minute guided meditation. This is the perfect pre-pleasure ritual for when you want to ground and get out of your head. The more relaxed you are, the more present you can be with yourself or your partner. 

You’ll be guided to focus on your collarbone and jaw bone to activate the parasympathetic nervous system which restores your body to its relaxed state, ready for sexual pleasure. Try this meditation before partnered or solo sex and notice the difference it has on being able to focus, connect, and let go.  

Then move onto a guided masturbation… 

Pleasure Your Pussy: A Guided Masturbation for Women

It’s common to find what works and stick to it, but this guided masturbation will help you explore your body to discover new areas of pleasure, find new techniques, and learn how to vocalize your wants and desires. You might just experience stronger orgasms too. 

Sit back, relax, and let us guide you through a variety of ways of touching, stroking, massaging and delighting your pussy with your hands. This is an invitation to give yourself the time and energy usually reserved for partnered sex. 

Practice now

Not every masturbation has to be a guided one, but when you have the time and energy to dedicate to a guided masturbation you will reap the rewards of having a mindful pleasure practice.

 Read next: The Ultimate Guide to Ethical Porn.

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