by Ashley Weller

Do you like to be told exactly what to do?

Let go, give in, and follow Damian Dragon’s every word as he guides you through a slow, sensual journey of self-discovery. Inspired by the raw intimacy of D’Angelo’s Untitled, this experience is all about you—your body, your pleasure, and the delicious anticipation of doing as you’re told.

Damian invites you to undress with him, to match his pace, to lose yourself in the rhythm of anticipation. He wants you beside him, body against body, breath syncing to his as you lay down together. His words become more intimate, revealing exactly what he misses most about you—every detail, every fantasy he’s replayed in your absence.

Then, he gives you control for just a moment, his voice thick with need. “Show me what you want.” He watches, mesmerized, before taking charge again. His hand moves in time with yours, urging you to match him, to mirror the pleasure building between you.

Surrender to the moment. Let go. Feel everything.

What You Can Learn 

• Using dirty talk to spice up your long distance relationship
• How to tap into male sensuality
• Incorporating consent into domination kinks

Key Themes

• Dirty talk
• Masturbation 
• Take it slow

Dirty Talk: The Art of Filthy Poetry

Words have power, especially when they drip with need, teasing the edge of your sanity and unraveling you one syllable at a time. Dirty talk isn’t just about being naughty—it’s an erotic symphony, a conversation between desire and surrender. The brain is the biggest sex organ, and when the right voice whispers the right filth in the right tone, it floods the body with dopamine and oxytocin, igniting arousal before a single touch. 

We see the power of dirty talk with Damian in “Touch Yourself.” Despite being through a screen, you feel connected to Damian and commanded by his voice. Confidence is key—own the words, let them roll off your tongue like molten sin. Tell them what you want. Describe what you see. Demand what they do next. Whether it’s a slow, sensual confession (“I’ve been thinking about your mouth all day”) or something deliciously depraved (“Stroke it for me—slow, then faster, just like that”), words become the thread binding pleasure and control. The best dirty talk isn’t just vulgar—it’s a command, a seduction, an invitation to lose control.

The best way to practice dirty talk is to start where you’re comfortable. Maybe you aren’t ready to fully command your partner or reveal your fantasies in detail. And that’s okay! Start with phrases you are comfortable with and start to slowly add more to your vocabulary. 

Masturbation: Worshiping at the Altar of Self

If there’s one thing science and experience agree on, it’s this: the person who knows their body best is the one who owns their pleasure. Masturbation isn’t just a solo act—it’s a ritual, a practice of self-worship. The body is a playground, and knowing exactly how to tease, stroke, and push yourself to the brink is both empowering and exhilarating.

Touching yourself isn’t just about release—it’s about control, discovery, and indulgence. The more intimately you know your own pleasure, the better you can command it, whether alone or in the hands of someone else. And let’s be real—watching someone lost in their own ecstasy? That’s the kind of visual feast that turns a scene from steamy to scorching. Mutual masturbation? That’s two artists painting pleasure across their own skin, putting on a show that’s both raw and hypnotic. 

This is the kind of pleasure that Touch Yourself captures so beautifully. Even though you and Damian are lost in your own moments, separated by time and space, it’s still super hot. The film shows us how to fully take advantage of self-pleasure—whether as an act of self-worship or a bridge to deeper intimacy with a partner.

Take It Slow… or Even Better, Edge It Out

Fast and frenzied has its place, but let’s talk about the true art of seduction: dragging it out. Teasing. Denying. Building anticipation so tight it turns into agony—the best kind of agony. Edging is the difference between a cheap thrill and a masterpiece. It’s scientific, psychological, primal.

By stopping just before the peak and then backing off, the body becomes an instrument of torment and bliss. Every nerve is on high alert, blood is pumping, and your body is begging—literally pleading—for release. And when it finally comes? It’s a goddamn supernova. A climax that hits deeper, longer, harder. It’s sex magic, plain and simple.

Taking it slow isn’t just about edging the orgasm—it’s about drawing out every moment. The way fingers barely graze skin, the way a tongue hovers just short of contact, the way a whispered “not yet” sends shivers down the spine. It’s not just foreplay—it’s the entire point. Because pleasure isn’t just about reaching the end. It’s about worshiping every second before it.

While we already see themes of edging in “Touch Yourself,” feel free to elevate the anticipation even more by pausing the video. You can take this break to sit with your feelings or engage in more solo pleasure. Remember, there’s only one rule: the longer you wait, the harder you fall.

Did You Notice?

Damian presses his thumb onto his perinuim (an erogenous zone on the penis) for more pleasure! He also touches other erougenous zones on his body. This shows an understanding of his pleasure and desire to feel good while making you feel good! How can you explore erogenous zones?

Fun Fact

According to an article published in The Journal of Social and Personal Relationships, more consistent intimate conversations lead to greater relationship satisfaction in those in long distance relationships (Hotlzman, Kushlev, Wonzy & Godard, Nov 2021). In other words, the more dirty talk, the better!

Questions to Consider 

• How did it make you feel to be guided to touch yourself?
• What are some phrases you would love to incorporate into the bedroom, but you’re nervous to say them?
• How would it feel to dirty talk to yourself?
• How does the absence of the female body affect the film?
• When he ejaculated, did you notice he touched his semen without shame or worry?