Porn and women, name a better duo. We’ll wait. And we’re not the only ones who think so. Badass women everywhere are standing up for the benefits of porn for women and why more women should be watching it and what more can we say? We’re 100% here for it. From backing non-profits that support sex workers’ rights to speaking out on women’s pleasure and closing the orgasm gap, women are using their platforms to debunk the myth that “porn is just a guy thing”. If you aren’t yet convinced on the benefits of porn for women, we’ll let these women do the talking. But before we introduce them, let’s take a minute to applaud them for reducing the shame and stigma around porn, and for celebrating the beauty of sex and porn for women because it’s about time people knew the truth about porn. And without further ado, these are the top 10 women of 2021 not afraid to talk about porn:
Women we love that love sex & porn for women
1. Shan Boodram
You probably know her by her IG handle, @shanboody, but Shan Boodram is a certified intimacy expert who uses her platform to discuss sex, relationships and everything in between. Known for her relatable approach and transparency when it comes to her own relationship woes and woas, Shan isn’t afraid to discuss even the most controversial topics regarding sex — porn for women included. Remember 2020 when we were all locked in our homes and craving intimacy & connection, right, how could you forget? Well, Shan shared her thoughts on porn consumption during this time and we couldn’t agree with her more.
“I think it’s actually quite beautiful because it’s people trying to create a normal during these very abnormal times, and preserving sex and making sex still be a thing. That’s OK in a time where we can’t touch or be within six feet of people — it can be actually very soothing, it can be a coping mechanism for some people.” [The Los Angeles Times]
Yes, Shan, yes 👏 and that’s not all she has to say about porn consumption. Shan has shared many times her thoughts on why couples should watch porn together and how this can be used to build relationships. For example, if you’ve ever wondered about the world of kink and don’t know how to share with your partner your want for them to give you a spank mid-sex or (consensually) choke you to the big O, porn can be the ideal intro to your deepest desires and ultimately impact your sex life in a positive way.
2. Ilana Glazer
Have you seen Broad City? We’re big fans. And Ilana Glazer is not only the co-creator and co-star of this sex-positive, women-forward comedy, but she used the show to push her thoughts on women masturbating, fluid sexuality, and oh yeah, porn for women.
But she’s also spoken out about the difficulty in finding quality porn for women, “I don’t watch anything but solo porn. Because regular porn is like, “shut up, little girl, wash my feet!” And she’s like, “uh, don’t tell my dad, okay? ‘Cause I’m just barely legal.” and like “I love shaved pubes and tan, crispy bellies and tits.” and It’s like, ugh.” We see you, and we feel you. But hey, Ilana, have you heard of afterglow? Because we’ve got something we think you might like 😉
3. Lily Allen
Next on our list, the lovely, Lily Allen. Last year, Lily launched her first sex toy with Womanizer but she didn’t stop there. Lily has shared her thoughts on why women should be talking more about sex.
“If we can get women into a habit of learning about themselves, what their likes and dislikes are, and communicate them to their partners, it can only be a good thing.” [Dazed]
And how can women easily discover what their likes and dislikes are? You got it, by watching porn, and Lily agrees. Lily said she likes watching porn because she “enjoys watching females have orgasms” [Female First]. Cheers Lily, us too.
4. Alexandra Cooper
When putting together a list of sex-positive women not afraid to talk about their porn-watching habits, Alexandra Cooper is a must. The host of the second most popular female podcast in the world, Call Her Daddy, that was started in part to create a space for “women’s locker-room talk”, Alex is constantly breaking the taboo on women discussing their sex lives. From teaching blowjob techniques to swapping raunchy stories with her guests, there’s no topic about sex that’s off-limits for Alex — porn included. Speaking on her friend’s porn habits she shared,
“And when I watch porn specifically, I don’t enjoy watching porn unless the girl is like kind of not enjoying it. And it’s like a forced sex situation. And she was like and then afterwards I’m I’m done masturbating and I feel fucking disgusting. And I’m like, what’s wrong with me? And I’m like, wait, no. We need to somehow normalize this. We’re not talking about physical abuse. No, we’re talking about a fantasy that fantasy does not equal reality.” [Call Her Daddy podcast]
Just because someone in porn looks like they’re not enjoying themselves, doesn’t mean they aren’t. So thank you, Alex, we really felt that.
5. Katie Thurston
Even if you don’t consider yourself a member of “Bachelor Nation”, Katie Thurston is a name to know. Katie turned heads with her first moments on camera when she introduced herself to the season’s Bachelor (vibrator in hand). We love to see it! But she’s more than just a lover of sex toys, Katie uses her Instagram and TikTok to normalize masturbation and adding sex toys to your daily routine. She’s all about them good vibes 😉
6. Rihanna
Yes, yes, of course our bad gal ri ri has a spot on this list. From sharing her submissive side and loving to be spanked and tied up to her fav porn for women categories to watch, Rihanna is truly a sex-positive goddess. Haven’t you not heard her 2010 ode to kinky sex? S&M is a jam, but she’s shared more about her sex life with the world than just with her music. She’s also talked about how she likes to keep things spicy with partners when in long-distance relationships.
“When you’re not with the person you want to be intimate with, a picture is the next best thing. Well, Skype is safer. But a picture lasts a long time. When you’re alone, and those horny moments come up, pictures can be very handy. I haven’t gotten a dick picture in a long time. I think people are a little afraid. It can turn out bad.” [Cosmo]
7. FKA Twigs
In 2020, FKA Twigs showed her support for sex workers everywhere by passing them the mic to allow their voices to be heard. Her short film, We Are the Womxn, was shot at a famous nightclub in Atlanta and showed her love for pole dancing and respect for those whose have a career in sex work. 2020 was a hard year on everyone around the world, but sex workers were hit harder than most. During a time where physical contact became few and far between, sex workers around the world struggled to make ends meet. And FKA Twigs recognized the challenges they were facing, but then actually did something about it — can we get a HELL, YES?! She launched a GoFundMe for sex workers “to tackle the stigma and fight for the rights and protections for sex workers“. Although the fundraiser has closed, watch her short film now, we promise you won’t be disappointed.
8. Dolly Parton
Dolly Parton…do we need to say more? A legend, an icon, and a lover of porn for women — Dolly is a woman we love. From sharing her first time watching porn to comparing one of her performances to watching porn (in a good way, of course 😉) Dolly Parton is fully aware that porn for women is for everyone to watch, enjoy and get off to, and we couldn’t agree more.
“We were real curious. A lot of people won’t admit it, but I just always had an open mind about sex. We all did. It was not a vulgar thing. We didn’t know what we were doin’, we just knew we weren’t supposed to let Momma and Daddy know it.” [Playboy]
9. Nikki Glaser
And ninth on our list of the Top 10 Women Not Afraid to Talk About Sex & Porn for Women is…the hilarious, tell-it-like-it-is Nikki Glaser! She’s detailed her porn-for-women-watching habits, what she likes, and what she’s learned. Honestly, we could not love her more for all of those reasons. Have you ever taken something you’ve seen in a porn for women film and brought it to the bedroom? She has. If you haven’t, we highly recommend it — an if you haven’t yet seen our new eduporn series, it’s the perfect place to start. But for now, Nikki has let the world know that she’s looking for some good gang bangs so let’s give here what she wants. So hey Nikki, we’ve got the answers to your gang bang fantasies with our category of gang bang films here.
10. Jameela Jamil
Last, but most definitely not least, the wonderful Jameela Jamil. Although Jameela has voiced her opinion on not agreeing with a lot of the current porn that exists out there, she’s also shared the importance of better porn for women.
“I’m not against porn as a whole – I think it has a great purpose in the world, but people in today’s porn don’t look like they are having fun.” [Esquire]
Well, Jameela, we’re happy to say that there’s better porn out there today and we’re creating a home for it on afterglow. Check out our hand-curated and growing library of porn for women, your opinion is about to change 😉