When was the last time you thought about what makes you tick? When did you last sit with pleasure honestly and in real-time? Have you ever truly pledged to do more of what brings you pleasure… what turns you on even?

Despite it being the 21st century, our pleasure as women is still tinged with shame, spoken about in hushed tones and hidden away to make way for others (read: men’s). Yet, it’s increasingly important that women feel able to talk about what turns them on and what they find joy in, particularly in (and out of) the bedroom. For a better sex life, for better mental health, and for happier healthier lives. We’re here to start the conversation with both a pledge and a 5-minute journal for better sex – and we hope you’ll join in.

A 5-Minute Journal Series

We want to encourage mindfulness and positive thinking when it comes to your pleasure, which are just easier to achieve without constant updates and breaking news. Take some time to yourself, consider your turn-ons and engage with them.

Your 5-minute journal on ‘what brings you pleasure’ might look a little like this…

Example 1 

My DMs are always open. My WhatsApp is ready to be filled. What brings me pleasure is a cheeky sexting session with my partner. When we’re apart, it’s the perfect way to stay on each other’s minds and to guarantee fireworks when we next see each other.

Example 2

What turns me on? Kisses on the neck. Not only is it an area packed with some serious nerve endings, it’s also a super intimate thing to do. You’re letting your partner in, submitting, and showing vulnerability. Tick, tick, tick.

Example 3

What brings me pleasure and majorly turns me on is watching my man cook. Seeing him spend time on something nourishing gets all my juices flowing – there’s nothing sexier than a caring partner. If the way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, the way to a girl’s bedroom is through hers.

If this sounds right up your alley, we encourage you to take five minutes to pen your own journal entry! 


About Kirstyn Smith

Kirstyn Smith, afterglow writer

Despite being a writer, Kirstyn Smith still isn’t very good at amusing bios. She works freelance as an editor + writer, and she’s also founder of Marbles – an independent magazine that explores mental illness with irreverence, rawness and humour. In her free time, she likes to nap, eat chips, run and consume all things spooky. But mainly the chips thing.

60% of women are dissatisfied with their sex lives. We’re on a mission to change that.

What if you didn’t have to search to find a body that looks like yours, a sex act that turns you on, or a guided exercise that helps you tell your partner exactly what you’ve been craving?

What if YOUR pleasure came first?

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