When you’ve been dating for a while, you may get caught up in your standard nightly sex. And don’t get us wrong – this can be super hot too, but it can be difficult to initiate a talk about sexual exploration if you’re stuck in a routine. Or, if you’re entering an exciting new relationship, it can be a bit awkward to initiate the “kinks” conversation. I mean, how are you supposed to ask your partner if they like pegging when you only became “official” a few weeks ago?
Here’s where porn comes in. It can be a useful “icebreaker” to foster sexual communication. You can try throwing on a basic porn with your partner, and begin asking, “does that look hot to you?” Or, “what position turns you on most?” This can be a great way to easily ask questions about your partner’s pleasure while also keeping things super sexy.
Approaching your partner
Before even initiating a conversation with your partner about incorporating porn into the relationship, it is important to do your due diligence in finding a video to watch together. This can make the idea of watching porn together less overwhelming for your partner. Rather than asking them to commit to watching porn without many details, you can ask your partner, “Hey! I found this video I really like and wanted to share it with you. Would you feel comfortable with that?” Once you start watching your favorite porn together, you can check-in with them about switching to another video. However, having something prepared may take some pressure off of the conversation and make your partner more comfortable about exploring porn together.
Making use of “I statements” is integral when approaching your partner about incorporating porn. Be honest about wanting to explore porn with your partner, and then ask them about their thoughts. You can say, “I would love to try this with you,” “I am really interested in watching this video together,” or even “I get really turned on by this type of porn.”You can then follow it up with, “how would you feel about that?”, “is this something that you’ve tried before?”, or “would that turn you on too?” Approaching the discussion with self-assurance about your preferences and genuine curiosity about their feelings can help your partner feel at ease while exploring new things together.
Communicate while watching
Exploring porn with your partner doesn’t just stop at the initial conversation. It is important to keep the open conversation going while watching porn with them to see whether you both are having a good time. For example, while watching the video, there are a multitude of questions that you can ask your partner how they are feeling and even initiate some really hot sex. You can ask them, “is this turning you on?”, “do you like that?”, or “is this something you would want to do together?” Alternatively, if asking directly makes you a little nervous, you can use what we call a “1-10 scale of horniness.” While watching the video, you can say “that was really hot, I am at a 8 horny,” or, “I didn’t really like that, I am at a 4 horny.” Porn can be an approachable way to show your partner what you like, rather than telling them; after all, if you don’t like something, it’s the porn’s fault, not your partner’s.
Types of porn to improve communication
Depending on what form of sexual communication you want to improve with your partner, afterglow offers you endless choices. Let’s start by breaking down our main categories: eduporn, real-life couples, and guided exercises.
Eduporn
Eduporns are adult films that you can learn something from. Exclusive to afterglow, eduporns combine sex tips and porn explicitly by collaborating with creators to make realistic and sexy erotic films. When watching with a partner, you can learn something together and improve your sex life as a team (which is so hot!). Eduporns serve as a wonderful resource to ask questions together or talk about trying things out. Our eduporns cover a wide range of topics, including “How to Start Squirting,” “How to Have Period Sex,” and “How to Give a Sensual Massage.” With seemingly endless lessons, you’ll never get tired of learning with your partner.
Guided exercises
While afterglow offers countless “traditional” films with super hot storylines, we also have a variety of guided exercises that are specifically designed for couples. These films are intended for couples to watch together as they follow along to the instructions of an experienced instructor. If there’s a fantasy you’ve been wanting to try with your partner but aren’t sure where to start, these exercises can function as an approachable guide to sexual exploration. With everything from cunnilingus to BDSM, afterglow is sure to have a guided exercise to please both partners. Throughout the exercise, you can check in with your partner to see what they like, how they feel, and how you can both do better.
Real-life couples
With exaggerated orgasms and unrealistic moaning, porn can sometimes give us the “ick.” However, as an ethical porn company, afterglow prioritizes authentic pleasure in our films. For instance, we feature a variety of films on afterglow that star real-life couples. Porn featuring real-life couples can offer a healthy outlet for evaluating how your sex life can improve and get a little bit more spicy. So, if you’re looking to try porn with your partner but want something that is representative of both of your pleasure, exploring a film with a real-life couple can be an excellent solution.
Our recommendations
Even if you’re on board with porn for couples, there are still endless possibilities to choose from. How do you know you won’t be scrolling endlessly with your partner? Don’t worry – we’ve listed our favorite films to make sure your hookup is extra sexy.
Ladies Come First
Lola and James share their favorite way to unwind and connect intimately. On a sunlit afternoon, they find themselves wrapped in the warmth of their bed. Lola tenderly traces her fingertips along James’ back, creating a soothing connection. As the atmosphere becomes charged with affection, she playfully and gently ties him to the bed, heightening the anticipation between them.This video offers a blend of sweetness and passion, with a touch of light bondage for those seeking an intimate and affectionate experience.
Tease Me Ready
Explore the intimate dance of desire, focusing on the art of foreplay as the gateway to heightened passion. Neen and Dante, a sensuous and playful queer couple, invites you to redefine intimacy through the art of erotic buildup. The experience begins with flirtatious kisses and the gentle caressing of feet, gradually escalating into powerful exchanges of pleasure. “Tease Me Ready” warmly invites you to fully embrace the captivating beauty of foreplay, recognizing it as an essential and deeply fulfilling aspect of every intimate encounter.
Relax and Unwind With Real Life Couple
Let’s face it, work can be stressful, and sometimes it feels like it takes over our lives. But you know what’s the perfect escape? The embrace of a loving partner. Chris and Kate Marley, a real-life couple, invite you to their bedroom, where they show you how to relax and give in to each other’s loving touch. So let go of all your worries and let this intimate moment wash over you in the most comforting way.
Sexual communication can be hard. But by using super sexy resources available to you, it doesn’t have to be. Plus, at afterglow, there are endless types of porn for couples that can help you start and continue the sexual communication. So, grab your partner and get to talking!
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