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How to Find Porn You Like

2022-05-24
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How to Find Porn You Like

Done with the MILF tropes, unrealistic representations of sex, lack of diversity, and lack of female pleasure in mainstream porn? Us, too. Let’s talk about how to find porn you like.

First thing’s first: what are you into?

To find porn you like, it’s helpful to think about what turns you on, first.

Try this:

Make a list of things that really get you going. Do you like to watch people with vulvas being eaten out? Do you fantasize about being slowly undressed? Does it turn you on to think about watching people have sex through a cracked door? Do you like watching clear, empathetic communication between couples during sex?

There might be things on your list that you aren’t sure you ever want to explore in real life, and that’s totally okay.

Maybe fantasizing about being tied up or choked is super hot for you, but you don’t actually want to experience it. Maybe you like to watch women have sex with women, but at this point in your life, you’ve only had sex with men. Whatever you’re into is okay.

You don’t have to overthink it. If it turns you on, it turns you on.

Tip: it can be really fun to share your list with a partner! You might find some new things you’d like to try together. You also might find things you’d like to fantasize about together, even if you don’t do them in real life. And you might decide to watch porn together, which can be a wonderful, sexy experience. (Need some help knowing how to start that conversation? We’ve got a guide for that.)

How to find porn you like

Now that you’ve made a list of things that turn you on, let’s talk about how to find them.

Searching on google or tube sites – pros and cons

Once you know what you’re looking for, you can go ahead and just search for it. There are billions of porn videos out there — what you’re looking for definitely exists somewhere online.

The down side of finding your porn through a search engine or a tube site? You’ll probably have to ex out of a million pop ups and sift through lots of content that turns you off.

Plus, it’s hard to know if the porn you’re watching is ethical.

Search or use filter buttons on an ethical porn site, like afterglow

When you watch porn on afterglow, you can trust that performers are 18+, paid fairly, and treated with respect. Consent is happening, whether it’s on or off-screen. Check out our ethical porn guide for a longer list of places to find ethical porn.

Tip: if you want to ensure that the porn you watch is ethical, pay for it. Your money ensures that performers and creators are paid adequately. Sex work is work.

How to filter for what you like:

You can filter for content based on categories.

Look at the list you made of what turns you on, and consider how your turn-ons might fit into categories like:

  • Sexuality. Whether you’re looking for heterosexual porn, queer porn, lesbian porn, gay porn, or bisexual porn, you’ve got options
  • Number of people. Solo pleasure, couples, threesomes, orgies, and gang bangs can all be super hot. What do you want to watch?
  • Sex act. Whether you want to see oral sex, massage, nipple play, kissing, fingering, pegging, squirting, or something else, we’ve gotcha covered
  • Mood. Looking for something spontaneous? Intimate? Realistic? Or maybe something experimental or playful? There’s a porn video for you. If you’re hoping for something rough and passionate, you also have lots of options

If you’re looking for something that doesn’t fit into any of these broader categories, you can probably find that, too. Whether you’re hoping to watch pregnancy porn, submissive sex, or a sex toy play, you can find what you’re looking for with filter buttons.

You can also search by porn studio. As you watch more porn, you might find you have a favorite studio, and you can keep checking back to see when they release new content.

If you have a favorite performer, you can also follow them on social media to stay in the loop about new releases.

Need a bit of extra inspiration? Here are a few of our favorites

The Submission of Emma Marx

Emma is stuck in mundane relationships until she meets a handsome new man and enters a world of erotic self-discovery. Think Fifty Shades of Gray meets a period drama.

Love your Cunt

Every cunt is different and we’re tired of vagina owners only having the chance to see one type in mainstream media. Part spoken-word poetry, part porn, this film focuses on helping you learn to love your cunt! 

Touch yourself

You might have heard of jerk-off instruction porn, but you probably haven’t seen it done like this. Through his seductive voice and sensual demonstrations, Damian Dragon gives you erotic instructions for a pleasurable solo sex experience. He focuses on validating statements that are sweet and soft. *Swoon.*

Plus, if you want to get to know him IRL before checking out his performance, you can learn about him in a backstage interview.

Ready to start watching?

Now that you know how to find porn you like, slip into (or out of) something more comfortable, start your ethical porn subscription, grab the lube, and press play. 😉 You deserve some pleasure, today.


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