So what did you think of 9 to 5?

See, smell, taste, remember Queen Jasmine! In 9 to 5, we see a realistic portrayal of the life of a dominatrix, or pro domme. First, we see that life outside the dungeon is painfully normal – hanging by the pool with a friend sharing a little gossip. But when it’s time to see a client, she pulls out all the stops. Prepping is an important part of her session, and Bwanna must earn her respect and his pleasure.

What you can learn from 9 to 5:

    • It’s ok to be submissive, no matter your gender or ethnicity.
    • It’s ok to be dominant, no matter your gender or ethnicity.
    • Tips on how to be a Queen domme
    • Our sexuality is valuable and we should be treated up to our standards

    • It’s ok to tell our partner what to do and give them instructions

    Here are some themes covered in 9 to 5 you may have noticed:

    • BDSM
    • Pro domme/sub relationship
    • Male anal sex (pegging)

    BDSM Primer

    In 9 to 5, Queen Jasmine and her client/sub Bwanna have an established Domme/Sub relationship. There’s no doubt Jasmine is the boss here, and that’s just how Bwanna likes it. BDSM stands for bondage, discipline or dominance, sadism, and masochism. This often misunderstood category of kink uses power dynamics, restraints, and pain as part of a safe and consensual sexual activity. Many people love BDSM for the benefits it has to offer, like communication, mindfulness, and stress relief. Sometimes, it’s nice to know who’s in charge. In 9 to 5, we see many expressions of BDSM, including flogging (a type of impact play), Queen Jasmine’s dominance in leading Bwanna on a chain and instructing him and leading the sexual encounter.

    Curious to try BDSM in your relationship? Check out our Intro to BDSM Guided Sex exercise.

    Domme/sub relationship

    9 to 5 provides an authentic portrayal of pro domme sex work. It’s clear Bwanna is a repeat customer, so the film doesn’t get into details on the important consent conversations that would usually happen when getting into this kind of relationship. Often in the media, we’ve seen the stereotype of the “dominant man” (ahem, Fifty Shades of Grey). 9 to 5 presents the opposite, with the woman being the one to take the lead. Queen Jasmine knows her worth and isn’t afraid to tell Bwanna exactly what she wants him to do. She prepared for him and spent time to create this experience, and thus she expects him to follow her rules. We also see small moments of care, consent and checking in, like when Jasmine asks Bwanna to choose his toy. When she asks him to repeat “remember” she is attuning herself to his state and ensuring he is still with her. Some believe that in domme/sub encounters, the sub is actually the one in control – the domme is creating the scene for their pleasure, and they are the ones able to let loose and be free of responsibility.

    Want to get a small peak into some of the consent conversations that you didn’t see on screen? Check out our behind the scenes interview.

    Give it to him

    Anal pleasure for men is still considered taboo by many, despite the prostate gland being a whole ‘nother pleasure center ripe for exploration. 16% of men have explored anal sex, yet 60% have fantasized about it. 9 to 5 features a lot of beautiful anal love, from prepping to pegging. Bwanna’s man enough to let Queen Jasmine do as she pleases with him, much to his benefit. Especially in the black community, seeing a submissive man challenges norms and common stereotypes.

    Interested in practicing anal pleasure? Check out our Prostate Massage and Prepare for Pegging Eduporn.

    Did you notice?

    • The song playing while Jasmine is getting ready is an original track by her partner, King Noire. Here’s a link to King on Spotify, and, if you’d like to see Jasmine and King in action, check out Smoke Doctors.


    Fun Fact –     Jasmine is a licensed clinical therapist with a strong emphasis on Intimacy post injury and Intimacy post illness. Read more about her & King here.

    Questions to consider

    • What parts of Jasmine’s dominance did you find inspiring? Were any parts scary or threatening?
    • What parts of Bwanna’s submissiveness did you find sexy? Did any parts/scenes turn you off?
    • How does each dynamic (dominant and submissive) show up in your sex life? How would you like it to?
    • What sex acts in the film turned you on? Which turned you off?
    • How do you prepare for sex? What are ways to “set the scene” for maximum pleasure?
    • What could your partner to do to make you feel more safe or prepared before or during a sexual encounter?