Written by Aydrelle Collins

The Bellboy starts off with a bit of voyeurism. A bellboy notices a young couple who are into to play in more ways than one. Kali is dominating, knows what she wants and is not afraid to take the lead inside and outside of the bedroom. While Tommy is more than happy to follow her every command to show what a good boy he can be. The couple soon discover with a bit of help from Sebastian, the bellboy, how to take their play to a whole new sexy level.

What You Can Learn

• Sex can be playful
• It is okay to be submissive no matter your gender.
• It is okay to be dominant no matter your gender
• Introducing toys and other tools can enhance sex
  
  

Key Themes

• Puppy Play
• Domination/ Submission
• Aftercare

Puppy Play

In the film, Kali and Tommy dive into the world of puppy play. Instead of the typical heteronormative dynamic where it is usually the woman who is in the submissive role, we see Tommy eagerly surrendering himself, relieving a raw, playful and sexy power dynamic. As the pup, he slips into obedience with a grin and eager to please. Kali commands the experience with a quiet, teasing, authority. Tommy is not just following orders he is savoring them, giving in to the thrill of being owned and cared for all at once. Curious about Pup Play check out the site puppyplaycommunity.org. This resource has tips and tricks to get started in this community.

Aftercare 

When the scene is over with, the intensity does not end, it transforms. After the mask comes off and Tommy comes off the leash, aftercare can begin. Aftercare is not just a footnote in kink it is the crescendo after the climax. For the couple, soft kisses, whispered check-ins and the slow rhythm of holding one another are not separate from the pleasure; they are the pleasure. What makes aftercare so erotic is that it is the space where vulnerability leads, and the moment is sealed with tenderness that lingers long after the play has ended. It is the difference between a scene that thrills in the moment and ones that deepen connection. In her article “Aftercare: A Tricky Affair.” author Ella Jacobs dives into her own experiences with BDSM and the importance of aftercare Aftercare: A Tricky Affair – Ella Jacobs – author.

Domination/Submission 

Kali does not play when it comes to being in charge. She is the kind of Domme who knows exactly what she wants and how to get it. From the very first moment she takes the lead till the very end. Tommy is more than happy to follow. Watching him obey every command from drinking from a bowl to drinking from her you can feel the power and pleasure exchange in each scene. Domination and submission are not about control in the cruel sense. It is about something much deeper than that. It is about  trust, consent, and surrender. When done right, it is one of the sexiest, most liberating forms of play out there. If you are curious about exploring D/S play here are just a few tips to get you started:

• Talk about Boundaries: Before you engage in any kind of play you gotta talk about boundaries. Boundaries, just like consent, are sexy. So, talk about your turn-ons/turn-offs. What are your yes and hard nos? 
• Consent is key: Going along with talking about boundaries, obtaining consent before, during and hell even after. Makes D/S play safe and pleasurable for all involved. Safety is sexy.
• Aftercare is foreplay for next time: Once the play is over, take care of one another. Cuddle, hydrate and check in. The more care you give after, the more intensity you will create next time. Remember, that pleasure is not just the play but it is in the connection you build afterwards.

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Did You Notice?

Dominance and submission are not just roles. They are invitations. Notice how Kali leads with confidence but also with care. Notice how Tommy’s surrender is not passive, it is active, intentional and filled with desire. Together they show a real power exchange and the very sexy art of giving and receiving. Where they are both fully engaged and equally responsible for the pleasure they create. Notice, this exchange in your own sex life, pay attention to the energy that this creates. Notice what it feels like to truly let go, what it feels like to lead and the pleasure that comes from playing  safe with a partner who you trust.

Fun Fact

Kali Sudhra who is an Indigenous performer, educator, and activist from Tkaranto. She uses her platform to crave out a space in an industry that rarely makes space for women of color to be in positions of dominance.  Her inspiration came from walking into a sex shop in Spain and seeing nothing but white dildos on the shelf!

Questions

When was the last time you let yourself fully surrender?

What does vulnerability feel like in your body?

What does “control” mean to you during sex? Does it excite you, scare you, or turn you on in ways you did not expect?

How do you practice aftercare in your own life?

What do you notice in your body when you are giving or receiving power during sex?

Does pleasure feel different in giving vs. receiving?