Written by Kimberly Ann O’Connor

In a deeply visceral encounter, Tormenta Cósmica and Mario delve into a world of experimental pleasure, exploring the art of fucking without physical touch. Each performer uses a camera to register the other, enjoying their roles as exhibitionist and voyeur. They indulge in a seductive dance of desire, pushing the boundaries of their connection.

What You Can Learn:

• A new way to play with a partner
• A hot way to increase your sexual self-confidence
• How to engage with pornography imaginatively
  
  

Key Themes:

• Mutual masturbation
• Exhibitionism
• Voyeurism
  
  

Mutual Masturbation

One of the most persistent myths about masturbation is that it is a substitute for sex with a partner. But that’s just wrong. Many, many people like to masturbate even when they have a steady partner. Some people enjoy it as a quick way to have an orgasm and release tension. Many of us enjoy it as just a different way to have sex: by ourselves. Some people use masturbation as a way to explore and learn about their own bodies before introducing something new into sex with their partner. For example, if you’re thinking about trying receptive anal sex, it can be really helpful to explore those sensations, and get used to having something in your butt, before inviting your partner to try it with you. And of course, you don’t have to choose. Masturbation can be all those things at different times. Masturbation doesn’t even have to be something we do alone. It can also be a hot way to have sex with a partner. You get to have all the sexy feelings that you know best how to give yourself, and at the same time enjoy watching your partner, and being watched by them. Plus, seeing the way your partner likes to pleasure themselves can be really informative! If you pay close attention, you get to see just how and where they like to touch themselves, and that’s information you can put to use later.

The way Aquele and Tormenta play together is especially interactive, since she is using a vibrator that he controls with his phone, and even his voice!

Exhibitionism

Exhibitionism gets a bad rap. It means getting off on being watched, and of course there are people who indulge their exhibitionistic fantasies in inappropriate ways. But there are lots of healthy ways to enjoy the excitement of having someone else be turned on by watching you. We can ‘perform’ for our partners the way Aquele and Tormenta do here. Do you see how excited they are watching each other? Can you imagine the excitement they feel when they see how excited the other is?

Many of us are self-conscious about our bodies, especially when we are naked. The vulnerability we experience is part of the charm, but can also be scary. Women especially are socialized to pay close attention to their appearance, and many women do say that they have a hard time letting go of their ‘worries’ about their body when they are having sex. But men can suffer from similar self-consciousness. And nothing kills the mood like getting stuck inside your own head. But what if we could see ourselves through our partner’s eyes? Could it help us feel more comfortable about our own bodies if, just for a moment, we could see ourselves the way they do?

Voyeurism

The flip side of exhibitionism is voyeurism: getting off on watching other people have sex (or do other things that have some kind of sexual aspect to them). And what is watching pornography if not a kind of voyeurism?

Aquele and Tormenta are playing with both sides of the voyeurism–exhibitionism dynamic here. Each of them is both the watcher and the watched, alternating the roles, but sometimes playing both of them at the same time. When Tormenta is pleasuring herself with the dildo, for example, she’s at the same time watching Aquele pleasuring himself.

There’s every indication that primordial humans would have seen other people having sex all the time, much as our primate cousins do (chimps and bonobos, for example). Indeed, in many societies, there is just a lot less privacy than we modern folk have, but that doesn’t stop people having sex! It just means that it’s not at all uncommon for people to see others have sex. Some researchers have even suggested that the noise people make when they have sex is meant to attract attention. Perhaps, then, there’s something in our ancient past that fuels this desire to see others having sex.

Whatever the origins of voyeurism might be, though, there must be quite a lot of voyeurs out there, given how many people enjoy pornography. But there’s a special thrill to watching someone in the flesh: someone who wants to be watched, and who’s getting off on it.

Engaging With Pornography Imaginatively

When we read a story, or watch a movie, we aren’t just passive observers. We actively engage with what are reading or seeing by using our imaginations: What is this character feeling right now? Why did they do what they just did? What’s going to happen next?

Pornography is no different. Yes, the images on the screen can excite us all by themselves. But the most powerful sex organ, or so it is often said, is the brain. We all know this. When we masturbate, it isn’t just the physical sensations that are arousing. Most of us, most of the time, use our imaginations to conjure thoughts that will help to arouse us, too. For many people, what tips them over the edge and into blissful land of orgasm the isn’t so much a particular way of touching themselves as some especially erotic thoughts.

This movie, too, invites us to imagine. We can imagine what Aquele and Tormenta are feeling, and what they are thinking. But we can also create a whole backstory for ourselves, one that is specially tailored to our own sexual desires. Where are they exactly? What kind of relationship do they have? Why have they decided to play this way today?

Here’s one thought: They are long-distance lovers. They have often talked about sharing videos with each other, and maybe even doing some video masturbation together when they’re apart. Now he’s visiting for the weekend, and they’ve decided to make these videos together, so they’ll have something to enjoy when they’re apart again. They’ve been talking about it for weeks, and now they’re finally getting to do it. The thrill of seeing each other this way, and knowing that they will be able to watch and re-watch the videos they are shooting of each other, is driving each of them wild.

There’s no right or wrong way to embellish the ‘raw materials’ the video provides. There’s only what works for you.

Did You Notice

The way she looks occasionally to see if anyone else might be watching?

The way the video has been edited to create an amateur, ‘home movie’ feel?

How excited he gets when she starts double penetration?

Questions To Consider:

• How do you think about masturbation and its relationship to partnered sex? Does it (or would it) bother you if your partner masturbates alone? Why or why not?
• Do you feel self-conscious about your body when you are having sex? Could ‘performing’ for your partner the way Aquele and Tormenta do help you feel more comfortable about your body?
• Have you ever wondered what it is like to have sex on camera? Have you ever wanted to find out?