Written by Sage

We’ve all been there…we meet someone or know someone who literally irritates us to no end. You’d rather listen to nails on a chalkboard than spend even one minute alone in a room with them. 

But what if you had to spend the rest of your life stuck in a small 3 person bunker with them? Sharing the last moments of your life and of earth with this person? 

What would you do? 

Would you survive? Could you withstand the tension of your hate?

And what if that tension then turned into a hotter, deeper, more burning feeling. A feeling that brought you closer and closer to the idea of letting that hate spew out in forceful thrusts, cathartic groans and pleasurable moans.

Would you still hate them, then?

Tension is Hot

This movie opens with the hottest trope to exist in romance: enemies to lovers. The duality of both the lust and hate that exists among three sexually charged individuals is deeply palpable in this film.

Have you ever felt that feeling before? That steamy, hot tension that exists in the moments before you kiss someone you’ve only ever felt loathing for?

The Reward Theory of Attraction makes us pay attention to anything that elicits a response from our nervous system. So even if someone gives you the “ick,” your brain is literally begging you to pay attention to that person. It further tells you that the person matters… to pay attention. That focus can flip into lust surprisingly easily.

Try building some tension before you watch the video or engage in your next sexual encounter. Maybe consider an “ick” you have or something that “irritates” you about your partner and use that tension to bridge into pleasure. If it feels too vulnerable to do the whole act of sex like this, maybe consider some playful, flirty banter at dinner.

Pubic Hair is That Girl

I don’t know what you were told about pubic hair growing up, but if you were in middle school in the early 2000s, then you know we were told that pubic hair is the demon. That no man will ever touch you unless you’re perfectly shaved and hairless.

They couldn’t have been more wrong.

Pubic hair is beautiful, and she is shown in all her glory in this video. The video features a perfectly cute pink heart on one of the main characters, and it is CUTE! The other main character is fully embracing a full, delicious bush in all her beauty!

Did you know that prior to the 1900s women did not shave their pubic hair? The shaving of pubic hair in the U.S. was tied to narratives of cleanliness, femininity and modesty. With the rise of porn in the 1980s, we began to see an increase of fully shaved bodies, connecting desirability to a specific body type. 

If you’ve ever felt shame about your pubic hair, this video will shed that shame for you! Maybe it will inspire you to grow out your pubic hair a little? Or consider dyeing it?! If that feels like too big of a leap, maybe consider just watching more media or porn that promotes pubic hair so you can get comfy with the idea of her being around more.

Look Ma, Only Hands!

I love a good vibrator just as much as the next girl, but there is something innately primal about watching a full video of sex only including our natural body parts. The lack of toys in the scenes created an intensity that felt raw and primal. Each motion, grunt, sweat, and moan feels authentic to the body; you see pleasure in real time… embodied.

Watching the sexually eager nature of grabbing for each other, finding each other’s bodies with their mouths—it all adds to the gritty and eager nature of the entire film. The desire is potent; they want to fuck… right now.

Challenge yourself to an “all hands” sexual session. Put away the toys and just enjoy each other with your all-natural bodies. Consider exploring parts of each other you haven’t touched before or finding new ways to touch each other. If it feels super intimate to do this, consider setting a short timer to help ease your nervous system.

Did you notice how free the sexuality felt in this film? The lack of shame, the eagerness for desire and pleasure… it’s a perfect expression of raw, real, and primal arousal.

Questions for you

• When was the last time you allowed yourself to explore sex completely with your hands?
• Where can you be more uninhibited in your sexual expression?
• What is your relationship to pleasure? How can you embrace it more?