Why We Created This Exercise (and Why You’ll Love It)

Let’s be honest: even with the best of intentions, oral sex can sometimes feel loaded. Maybe you’re worried about doing it “right.” Maybe your partner’s trying to silently telegraph what they like, and you’re… not getting it. Or maybe you both just want to slow down and savor the moment without all the mental chatter.

That’s where our guided cunnilingus practice comes in. It’s like having a wise, sexy friend in the room whispering: “Try this. Notice that. Take a breath.”

Here’s why it’s so effective:

• Takes the pressure off both partners — You don’t have to be in your head thinking, Am I doing this right? You simply follow along and enjoy.
• Creates a shared language for pleasure — What “circles” means to you might be totally different from what it means to your partner. Guided exercises help you define those terms together, making future communication easier (and sexier).
• Encourages mindful, intentional touch — Instead of rushing to a goal, you focus on the journey, tuning into each stroke, swirl, or pause.

Makes exploring new dynamics feel safe and fun — Whether you’re new partners or have been together for years, guided practices offer a fresh, low-stakes way to experiment.

How to Approach This With a Partner

Start by sharing your curiosity—something simple like, “I found this audio and thought it could be a fun way for us to explore together.” Keep the tone light and open. This isn’t about performing; it’s about co-creating a moment that feels good for both of you.

Set the mood with low lighting, comfy blankets, maybe a little lube nearby. You can listen together on speaker or use headphones—whatever helps you both feel connected and present.

Before you press play, check in briefly about boundaries or signals (like a pause word or a look). Then, just let the guidance take over. You don’t have to know what you’re doing—you just have to be in it together.

Who Are These Exercises For?

In a word? Everyone.

New couples looking to build trust and discover each other’s turn-ons.
Long-term partners who want to break out of a routine and reconnect.
Folks who feel shy about asking for what they want — the guidance gives you both permission to explore without awkwardness.

Anyone wanting to level up their oral game — because great lovers are made, not born.

Our guided exercises aren’t just for cunnilingus. We’ve created a whole suite of partnered practices covering oral, hand sex, edging, and more. Each one is designed to help you tune in, slow down, and share pleasure in a new way.

Curious how slowness can actually turn up the heat? Read more in this article on mindful sex.

The Hidden Superpower: Communication Without Awkwardness

One of the most beautiful outcomes of these exercises is how they help couples (or throuples, or whoever you’re getting down with) develop a common vocabulary for pleasure. After a session, it’s so much easier to say: “Hey, can you do those slow circles you did during the guided exercise?” or “That ‘tease and hover’ part? More of that, please.”

You’re not guessing—you’re collaborating.

Want help finding the words? Check out our guide to taking control in the bedroom.

Ready to Try?

If you’re curious, Cunnilingus: A Guided Partnered Practice is a perfect place to start. Get comfortable, grab your headphones (or play it out loud), and let us guide you into a new kind of connection.