Masturbation

Fun for one, enjoyable for all! Masturbation is a great way to connect with yourself sexually and discover your likes and dislikes. When we’re on our own it can be easier to test certain limits, try new things we might feel embarrassed or nervous about sharing without fear of judgement, and learn more about our overall pleasure.

It can also be a great way to connect with your partner(s) through what’s known as “mutual masturbation.” This can be done in two ways:

1. Pleasuring yourself while your partner watches and vice versa (can be separately or at the same time), or
2. Pleasing each other simultaneously using your hands on each other’s genitals such as in hand jobs or fingering

Imagine how much inspiration you can get from watching your partner play with themselves. No one knows their body better than they do, so it’s like you’re getting the cheat codes to give them the most pleasure when you play together!

Your partner masturbating doesn’t mean you’re doing anything wrong, if anything it might mean you’ve got them so turned on they can’t help themselves! So make sure you encourage them, pay attention and take notes for yourself!

Exhibitionism + Voyeurism

The thrill of potentially getting caught, going against the rules and getting in trouble, is a serious turn on for some. Just as it is for others to potentially get caught watching them. The titillation of the taboo is itself an aphrodisiac for many. However, it can be just as equally a turn off or arousal killer for others. If you’re looking to play in the wild, first make sure everyone involved is getting the same pleasure from the idea–and all are aware of and consenting to the potential legal and physical risks associated–before taking your debauchery to the streets. Getting caught or being watched might merely be a fantasy for some, meaning that it’s a turn on as long as it remains in imagination alone and never crosses into reality. Neither is better or worse, and nothing is wrong with wanting or not wanting either.

Squirting

According to the experts at Clue App, “Squirting is the release or gushing of tens to hundreds of milliliters of clear fluid from the urethra, usually during orgasm or high arousal.” It is not the same thing as female ejaculation because each comes from a different part of the sexual anatomy. Squirting is clear, watery liquid released most likely from the bladder that may or may not happen during orgasm. It can contain some urine but is not the same as peeing during sex or sexual incontinence. Female ejaculate is a milky fluid released through the urethra originating in the Skene’s gland AKA the “female prostate.”

There is much scientific debate over what comprises the liquid expelled in the sexual response known as squirting. Squirting does not always indicate orgasm, any more than orgasming requires squirting. Some experts say anyone with a vulva can squirt to some degree and that it’s mostly psychological when someone isn’t able to. But other professional schools of thought disagree and argue that some people can squirt and some can’t, though it is a skill that can be cultivated further in those with the ability, whether they’ve been able to do so yet or not. The ability to squirt can also change with age. A study in Sweden of women aged 23 to 69 years old who experienced some form of squirting in their lives showed that for many, “squirting only started happening for them later in life due to new sensations in the vagina after giving birth or as a result of them becoming more relaxed and open-minded about sex.” It’s important to note that there is much social stigma around female pleasure, and much focused on orgasm and squirting specifically, which may influence findings and also limit reporting.

Did You Notice

• Using hand sanitizer on her ass after touching it bare to the counter?
• How many different types of orgasms did our star experience?
• How many times did she squirt?
• Did she ever orgasm without squirting? How many times?
• Did you spot the rogue hand during nipple play? Who was that?!
• The color and shape of the butt plug?

Questions to Consider

• How did you feel when our star was looking around to see if anyone was watching?
  • What about when people walked by or cars drove through?
  • Did you find yourself feeling excited spilling into arousal or was the sensation too nervewracking to feel turned on?
    • Neither answer is right or wrong, it simply shows you where you might fall on exhibitionism being a fantasy (only in play in your head or home) or desire (to live out in reality).
• Did your experience of watching her masturbate change when it was just her on camera or when the other actress was on camera recording her with her phone?
• Have you ever tried masturbating with a butt plug in? Why or why not?