Written by Hunter S. Johnson

Consent. Is. SEXY! This twosome felt more like a threesome, with the addition of their special guest star: the word “no.” Did You Cum, another one of Bea Blue’s hits, exemplifies the director’s interest in making pornography that creates a safe, caring space for performers and viewers alike, centering women’s pleasure. The film uses enthusiastic consent – and the requisite “no” that accompanies it – to draw the viewer in and help them connect with the players as they slide through an oily massage into a passionate sequence of hands, mouths, fucking, and cumming, with Bea’s signature camerawork amplifying the sparkling chemistry between Calita Fire and Rob Hardick. In this film, Calita’s pleasure stays firmly in focus, because what’s sexier than boundaries being expressed and respected?

What You Can Learn:

• A “no” is always welcome during sex.
• Creating a sexual environment for communication is hot as fuck.
• Listen when your partner expresses their wants.
• Coaching and open communication lead to very, very good orgasms.
• Pleasure can take longer, and there’s always time for it.
• Take it slow, until she says to take it fast.

Consent Is Kink

In an internet where most porn is created by and for the male gaze, Did You Cum slips firmly into position rejecting the tired status quo. Many of us struggle to express our boundaries or wishes in sex, sometimes even saying “please touch me here” feels difficult. This film is an amazing (and hot) reminder of how easy it can be to state what we want.

Watching Calita gently guide her partner through her pleasure. Greeting Rob’s requests with a kind but definite “no”, then showing him exactly how to touch her clit, is a reminder of how sexy communication can be.

Boundaries have their own reward too, as Calita demonstrates after Rob cums. Watching her towel off, then lay back for a mind-bending orgasm at his fingertips makes the message hit deep that taking time to communicate has tangible, toe-curling rewards, and answers the film’s title question: Yes, they did cum.

Would You Like?

One of the little intricacies of asking consent lies in the words we use to ask. In the film, Rob phrases his requests as “can I”- like “Can I pull your hair?” It’s a completely legitimate way to check in, and Rob does a fantastic job. Another way to phrase it would be “Would you like me to pull your hair?”

That phrasing shifts the focus from what the asker wants (“can I”) to what the other person might enjoy (“would you like”). It gives the person being asked a chance to pause and think, “Do I want my hair pulled?” instead of potentially, “This person wants to pull my hair.”

Did You Notice

Calita Fire is a vocal advocate for natural body hair. Much of her work challenges the idea that women need to shave at all, exposing pressure to shave as a social construct.

Fun Fact

Director Bea Blue says about the film: “The overall starting point of the idea was the discussion if porn sets provide enough safe space for women to truly get turned on and orgasm. In the porn sphere the male and female orgasm matter both – which is a positive outcome nowadays. It is an achievement but if the female orgasm is the goal nowadays as well – did we already make sure that the environments and needs therefore are met (especially on porn sets)? In this film our protagonist is in focus of her own needs. She gets off set to get going, she does not shy back to be truly vocal, can address a no. He is truly engaged without ego. Both parties orgasm for real. I hope this film is a clear invitation for straight couples to break through performance pressure and really engage with each other.”

Questions to Consider:

• How does enthusiastic consent change the energy of a sexual encounter?
• When was the last time you voiced a boundary, or a desire, without hesitation?
• Do you tend to ask “can I” or “would you like,” and how might that small shift change the mood?
• What does genuine communication look like during sex, beyond words like yes and no?
• How do porn films that center women’s pleasure influence the way we think about our own?
• Can a clear “no” be as intimate and connective as a “yes”?