Pleasure Recap · from a conversation between Izzy & Christina

If you’ve ever wondered, What actually makes a blowjob unforgettable for both partners? Or why does what we see in porn so often differ from real-life intimacy? — you’re in the right place to find out.

Below is a conversation between Izzy, a sex educator and podcaster, and Christina, a cam model and filmmaker, as they revisit some of the most interesting moments from How to Give a Blow Job. Together, they have an honest and candid discussion about what it really means to master the art of oral sex.

How to Give a Blow Job is Katy Jayne’s Blowjob Masterclass – Eduporn designed to help women feel genuinely confident and empowered, drawing on six years of professional experience to guide you from uncertain to actually knowing what you’re doing – covering technique, touch, and everything in between.

Are you ready for a deep dive that’s both insightful and fun?

Tina I’ve been a cam model for fifteen years, and giving blowjobs for much longer than that. Simply because I think it is very fun. Why would you not enjoy giving your partner pleasure?

Izzy One of our clips is just about that, finding pleasure in giving a blowjob. What do you think about what she [Katy Jayne] said there?

Tina I agree fully with her. You can have all the technique in the world, all the right hand movements and all the right toys. If you are not having fun, then I don’t think your partner can have fun. I firmly believe if you do not enjoy having a dick in your hands and in your mouth, just don’t do it.

Izzy And if some people would like to enjoy it, but struggle with oral sex?

Tina Then the masterclass is really good, because she goes through it step by step and explains how you can find joy in it for yourself. For me, with sex as with everything, the most fun thing is when your partner is enjoying it.

Tina If you are gonna do it and you’re gonna be very reluctant and you really only do it because your partner wants it, I don’t think that is the right attitude. Even if you don’t really enjoy the act itself, if you can find the joy in giving your partner pleasure, that is the right attitude. Doing something only because someone else likes it, not good. You and your partner should be open to exploring what you like. It can be a little silly. It’s fun to be a little silly when you have a dick in your face.

Izzy This exploration should always be fun. If you try to explore and you’re too serious about it, when you start making mistakes you’ll easily just give up.

Tina And then it feels like a failure. But if it’s just from the mindset of having fun, it doesn’t matter if it’s really good, because you’re still having fun.

Tina When I saw the common mistakes clip, I was like, what are the mistakes? Then she mentioned them, like the teeth, and I’m like, okay, that makes sense. But the biggest mistake is not having fun. I’m gonna emphasize that a lot. I see sex really as play. There are not really any mistakes, except you can always accidentally hurt someone. That’s where the teeth are maybe not so great. But even that can be funny, something you can laugh at later.

Tina Softly biting it is fine when you’re still getting it ready. And some like it hard, but you should probably not do that without asking first.

Izzy Have you ever had anyone that did not enjoy receiving a blowjob?

Tina Once I gave someone a blowjob and they did not enjoy the amount of eye contact that I enjoy. That’s how you can pay attention to your partner. Are they stiffening up when you use your teeth? Don’t use them again. Or are they relaxing? You can see it in their face. That is one of the most fun parts, the actual interaction. But it made him very uncomfortable, he felt very watched when I made eye contact. Usually men are very receptive, they don’t care too much. There are not many mistakes you can make for a man to say, no more blowjobs, please.

Izzy It’s very interesting that this person didn’t want the eye contact.

Tina He didn’t want to explain. He just said, it’s me, not you. And I was like, of course it is, because why would you not enjoy that?

Izzy Every single time it will be different. The person liked something on the first night and they may not like it the second. It comes down a lot to communication, verbal and non-verbal, because you don’t wanna do too much chatting.

Izzy Deep throat can be intimidating or uncomfortable sometimes. What are your thoughts?

Tina I always say, how far are you willing to go to give or receive pleasure. I’ve never had any issues with it, I’m born with the blessing or the curse that I don’t really have a gag reflex, so I see it as a challenge. But I’ve met quite a few women that just really don’t like that sensation. And then just don’t even try it. If you really don’t like it, don’t do it.

Tina [For deep throat] it has to be well lubricated. I usually start with just licking it up and down, getting it nice and wet before you really do anything, because it doesn’t feel good for them if it’s dry. I like a bit of spit. It’s a little messy, a little dirty, but it’s all fun.

Izzy And what do you think about her tips for swallowing?

Tina I very much enjoyed the way she explained the alternatives, swallowing or not, and the way to spit it out. Most of the time I do enjoy swallowing. I use the same trick she does, because it’s the easiest way to get it down and you don’t even have to worry about how it tastes. Guys can get very offended if you don’t swallow, which I think is ridiculous. I don’t think you need to it for it to be a good blowjob. If you don’t enjoy it, don’t do it. And I really enjoyed the tips she gave to make it kind of cute, let it dribble out of your mouth and play with it.

Tina I very much enjoyed the way she explained it. She had a very nice way of explaining things without making me feel like I don’t know shit. It was very approachable. And I enjoyed the video, the actual blowjob where you can see her putting it all in practice. Especially if you’re a beginner, you should watch it. She has a lot of good tips.