Porn is everywhere – one study reports that 91.5% of men and 60.2% of women in the USA report watching porn in the past month. And it’s a loaded topic. Those against porn argue that it’s immoral, ruins relationships, and can lead to an addiction. Those who are for it, argue the benefits of watching porn – that more porn is correlated with more sexual satisfaction, better communication during sex, & more intimacy in your relationships. But is porn addictive?  The jury seems to be out on this one, so we’re looking at the evidence.  Is porn addiction real?  To [...]

Ever noticed how much easier having sex is, compared to talking about sex?  Whether it’s because we’re shy to voice our fantasies and our needs, afraid of upsetting our partner, or we simply don’t have the language to say what we want – many of us put off sexual communication and subsequently miss out on having the sex that we deserve.  While talking about sex with your partner isn’t always easy, it’s definitely worth it.  No matter the type of relationship you’re in, communicating your needs can increase intimacy with your partner, allow you to better understand your needs, and [...]

As a successful adult content creator on OnlyFans, Dez Fraser has found huge success online. She creates an endless stream of content featuring images and videos of herself, which her followers can see for a monthly fee. Many pay extra for personalized videos, photographs or texts. Despite threatening to shut its doors to sexually explicit content creators last year and then reversing its decision, OnlyFans has given sex workers a safe platform for doing business. And although there are other places that offer similar services, the site has gained mainstream popularity thanks to its user-friendly interface and celebrity content creators. [...]

Contrary to what many of us think, we don’t necessarily need intercourse to have an orgasm. In fact, sometimes genital stimulation isn't necessary at all. One 2016 study for example found that 12% of vulva bodies can orgasm from stimulation in erogenous zones outside the genital region.  Orgasms can also result from activities that don’t involve erogenous zones at all. Sometimes they can be completely non-sexual. One 2018 study looked at self-reported cases of non-sexual orgasms and found that some people were able to climax from exercise, tattoos, childbirth, riding motorbikes, breastfeeding, being in a plane that’s taking off, and [...]

Dr. Tara is a professor of relational and sexual communication at California State University Fullerton. She’s also an award-winning researcher, a sex and relationship coach, and host of the Luvbites by Dr. Tara podcast. “I guess now I'm also a resident tiktok sex educator with over 1 million followers,” Dr Tara adds.  In other words, she’s killing it.  Her goal is to normalize sex talks, help people live a more passionate life, and feel more sexually fulfilled through confidence and communication coaching. She also has a great Tedx Talk Become Sexually Confident.   Dr. Tara believes that when it comes to [...]

One night stands get a bad rep. They’re frowned upon, met with judgement, and they’re seen as the most superficial and least intimate form of casual sex. When we hear about one night stands it almost always focuses on the perils – the physical dangers, the “walk of shame”, STIs, unwanted pregnancies.   Women in particular suffer under the prevalent narratives about one night stands. We’re called sluts, whores, and ‘easy’ just for engaging in casual sex… *eye roll*. Apparently we’re meant to all wake up after a one night stand with a hangover and a lot of regret. But we [...]

Jessica Starling is a camgirl and porn performer. She got her start in the industry as a stripper soon after she turned 18. After dancing for a few years she decided she wanted to expand into other areas of the sex industry. First turning to camming, she did her first broadcast on Chaturbate in 2016 and has been hooked ever since!  She loves role play, taboo, and fetish films. She particularly loves playing the role of mommy, sister, and homewrecker. Some of her favorite fetishes are humiliation, cuckolding, pegging, and impregnation. And she’s a fantastic dirty talker.  She splits her [...]

Content warning: This article includes discussion of sexual assault in the context of consensual non-consent fantasies and may be triggering to some people.  Forced sex fantasies aka “rape fantasies” are a terrifying prospect for some, but an erotic dream for others. Also known as ravishment fantasies, they are part of the broader umbrella of consensual non-consent (CNC) kink. The fantasies can, understandably, elicit a strong reaction for those who don’t know much about them but in reality they are one of the more common fantasies. Read on to find out everything you need to know about forced sex fantasies and [...]

Nancy and Noble have been together for 20 years and enjoy using porn in their relationship as a shared intimate act. Although it’s hard to find time in their busy schedules with children and work, they have fun watching afterglow together when they can. “We are very sexually active. We're in an open marriage. We're swingers and we’re very promiscuous, you could say,” Noble explains. But despite their lifestyle, they have the same challenges as a lot of couples when it comes to finding time for intimacy and finding porn that they enjoy watching together. Like others, the couple have [...]

Sex fantasy or desire? If you’re wondering, “aren’t all sexual fantasies ultimately sexual desires?”. No, not necessarily.  We often use these terms interchangeably but they actually mean very different things. What is a sexual fantasy?  A fantasy is something that lives in our head. It is created through our imagination, we can imagine it in great detail and replay it over and over, but it may never come to life. Almost everyone (97-98%) reports having sexual fantasies, and having them often (Davidson, 1985; Lehmiller, 2018; Pelletier & Herold, 1988).  “[A fantasy is] almost any mental imagery that is sexually arousing [...]