Touch

Pleasure Recap

So what did you think of Touch?

Slow & sensual, Touch explores passionate foreplay and all the ways one can touch their partner. Ember Snow and Alex Legend spend time warming each other up and touching each other over every inch of their bodies. From a relaxing bath to the intimate setting of the bedroom, this video will leave you yearning for more.

What you can learn from Touch:
How to take enough time to warm each other up
Different ways to engage in foreplay
How to prepare for intercourse
How to include foreplay and sensuality throughout sex, not just prior to penetration
Here are some themes covered in Touch that you may have noticed:

Take it slow
Foreplay
Size Queen
Take it slow
This film’s pacing is much slower than typical porn. Scenes don’t feel rushed. At 43 minutes long (and about 20 of them being penetrative) it’s at least 4 times as long as the median length couples have penetrative sex. Though, sex times can vary widely, and there’s no right amount of time to have sex, just what feels best for you and your partner.

Touch begins in the bathtub. For many women, getting ready for sex is as much about removing the stressful things constantly in the background of our minds as it is about getting turned on. Taking a bath can be one way to relax and start to get back into your body. When Alex comes over, he doesn’t immediately start engaging in traditional foreplay, it’s actually Ember who initiates him touching her breasts…and we get to wonder exactly what’s happening underneath that water!

Foreplay
In Touch, we see almost every kind of foreplay there is. Kissing is not a cursory sideshow but a scene unto itself. Alex lovingly explores, licks and sucks Ember’s nipples throughout multiple scenes. She sucks on his fingers. Even him picking her up, helping her dry off and taking her to the bed is foreplay. She guides him on how to play with her clit before he takes over stroking and fingering her. She sucks on his fingers to help him lubricate her. She holds his hands as she gets on top of him and grinds against him, kissing all over his body.

Even after the penetration begins, they pause and Alex performs cunnilingus on Ember. This shows how sex doesn’t have to be linear. It doesn’t even have to end in orgasm. We can pause, take a break, take a step back, or stop whenever it feels right. We can switch positions or ask for something slower, faster, or different.

Size Queen
It’s extra important Ember had ample amounts of preparation time because Alex’s penis is extremely large. She spends time lubricating it with spit through her blow job. It’s unclear if the amount of prep is enough for Ember to feel comfortable and ready, or if a little lube would help (it never hurts to use lube!). Not only this, but some of the positions these two engage in, such as squatting cowgirl, are designed for deep penetration. It’s a good thing there was so much foreplay in this video! Often, we believe that for women, wet = ready, but it’s more important to listen to the brain than the body for when and if you feel ready. It’s called arousal non-concordance, and it’s definitely worth knowing about.

This film contributes to the notion that women want huge penises – something that’s not true! When ranking the most important factors in choosing a partner, penis size was one of the least important factors, well below honestly, intelligence, and kindness. The size of the penis has little do to with overall pleasure. In fact, 83% of women said a penis can definitely be too large to be comfortable. For most women, having a partner that engages in foreplay, and pays attention to their body and their pleasure well exceeds the desire for a particular size of penis.

Questions to consider
How did the pacing of Touch affect your reaction to it?
How long do you like to have sex? How much foreplay do you enjoy vs. penetration?
What types of foreplay did you find most exciting?
How does Touch differ from a typical or mainstream porn? How is it similar?
What was your reaction to Alex Legend’s penis size?
What types of foreplay or positions would you like to bring into your real sex life?