Relax & Unwind with Kate & Chris

Pleasure Recap

So what did you think of Relax & Unwind?

Relax & Unwind features Kate & Chris Marley, a real life couple. In it they state “this is our actual sex life.” This intimate video features lots of foreplay, so much so that Kate climaxes before any PIV penetration occurs. From teasing to toys to dirty talk, Kate & Chris invite you into their bedroom for a slow, sensual lovemaking session.

What you can learn from Relax & Unwind:
How to spend time warming up before the main event
Multiple positions and strategies for mutual masturbation
What a sensual sex session looks like for Kate & Chris, a real life couple
Here are some themes covered in Relax & Unwind that you may have noticed:

Taking your time
Mutual Masturbation
Real Sex
Foreplay or the Main event?
Foreplay is often thought of as a “warm up.” In Relax & Unwind, we start with a good five minutes of gentle caressing of his butt and her breasts. Things then progress to mutual masturbation, so slowly and smoothly that you almost don’t realize that Kate is stroking Chris’s cock and he’s got his hands in her panties. Chris builds her up with some dirty talk, Kate busts out a trusty toy, and she orgasms from this alone. Women are generally more likely to have responsive desire, a sexual desire style where someone only wants sex after sexual activity has begun and physical pleasure or erotic context has occurred, whereas men are generally more likely to have spontaneous desire, or a sudden, impulsive urge for sex that can seem to come out of nowhere, even sparked by a small thing. Yet spontaneous desire is somehow considered the “norm,” which can lead to those with responsive desire worrying they have “low libido” just because it takes more time or the right context to get warmed up.

Mutual Masturbation
And speaking of warming up – Relax & Unwind features many types of mutual masturbation. We see Kate & Chris start off in a spoon position with light touches. She then turns to lay on her back for better cock-stroking access, and he starts to play with her clit. She says “my turn” and grabs her toy as they lay opposite each other. Just because the toy comes out, doesn’t means she has to do all the work! He fingers her and talks to her and makes her feel comfortable. As Kate really gets going, Chris encourages her and starts to play with himself while she gets closer to orgasm. After she orgasms, they take a break. Traditional penetration happens for less than a minute of the whole film!

Interested in learning more foreplay techniques? Check out our eduporn on How to Have Sex With a Woman.

Real Sex
Kate & Chris provide a stunning counterpoint to traditional/mainstream porn in this film. Here you’ll see no exaggerated expressions, no turning out to the camera, no quick penetration or wild positions. Traditional porn also has to fit into a specific category or search term – e.g. threesome, creampie, etc. Relax & Unwind defies traditional categorization. There’s some clit play, a tad of dirty talk. One lovely signature of realness in this film is the fact that there’s no simultaneous orgasm, in fact, they are about 10 minutes apart! Despite the still-too-common societal perception that simultaneous orgasms are somehow better, 25% of couples never achieve simultaneous orgasms, according to a Uncovering Intimacy survey. And 40% of women said that having an orgasm together doesn’t even matter. Many would choose a beautiful experience like the one pictured in this film.

Did you notice?
Some of Chris’s dirty talk is a bit mumbly but there are some exciting tidbits like ““Your pussy really liked that”, “You’re such a good girl baby”, and “I haven’t decided if I’m going to make you swallow it, put it in your butt, or put it in your pussy.” Do you remember which one Kate ultimately did?

Fun Fact – Kate & Chris aren’t shy about using lube. He even mentions the “new formula.” This is Kate’s signature Massage Butter that she produces and sells! Check it out here.

Questions to consider
How does this film compare to other porn films? What specifically is more “real” or “authentic” about it?
How does this compare to your real-life sex? What about it is accurate? What is aspirational? What is not your cup of tea? Did anything not feel “real” about this film?
Relax & Unwind featured multiple positions and types of mutual masturbation. Which aspects of this were your favorite? Do you have a favorite that Kate & Chris missed?
Did this feel like a “female pleasure focused” film? Did it feel like a balanced give & take between Kate & Chris? Why or why not?
What did you think of Chris’ dirty talk?
How would you describe the tone of this time?
Kate & Chris say “by sharing our most intimate moments we hope to inspire sensuality & connection in your life.” Did they succeed? Why or why not?