I’m Obsessed with Owen Gray

Pleasure Recap

Do you ever fantasize about hooking up with your favorite porn star? Well, in I’m Obsessed With Owen Gray, Cintia doesn’t have to fantasize – she gets to live it. And luckily, she takes you on the journey with her. I’m Obsessed With Owen Gray features interviews with Cintia and Owen at the beginning and end of the film, making this a super fun part documentary-part porno that takes viewers along for the ride.

What you can learn:
Eye contact is a super hot way to make sex more intimate
There are always power dynamics in sex – but how can we recognize and overcome them?
Porn is not “one way” – it can draw on different artistic and film styles!
Here are some themes covered in I’m Obsessed With Owen Gray that you may have noticed:

Eye contact
Power dynamics
Fusion of film styles (documentary + porn)
Eye contact
Is there really anything hotter than eye contact during sex? Just as you think it can’t get any better, you look into their eyes and become even more connected as you see they’re thinking the exact same thing. We see eye contact emphasized throughout the film, but in two moments in particular. First, when Owen is deeply penetrating Cintia and he pulls her head closer to him as they lock eyes and don’t look away. Next, after they orgasm and they stare longingly into each other’s eyes. In the final interview, Owen even says, “it was very powerful, just making eye contact without distraction.”

Clearly, eye contact is a prominent theme throughout the film – but why does this matter? Well, the truth is (especially when we’re talking about a first-time hookup), sex can be awkward. You’re getting completely naked and being vulnerable enough to let someone touch your body and ultimately trust that they’ll pleasure and take care of you. So, making eye contact with someone while you’re in this vulnerable state can be scary! But, as we see with Owen and Cintia, eye contact can actually be a great way to overcome this initial awkwardness and connect with each other. Seeing your partner, and them seeing you, with a facial expression that’s overwhelmed by pleasure can help you embrace the extravagance of sex and have the best time possible.

So, the next time you want to dive head first into pleasure, try staring deeply into your partner’s eyes confidently. You may be surprised by what you find.

Power dynamics
Obviously, we have to address the main draw to this film: Cintia is living out her (and honestly, our) ultimate fantasy of hooking up with her favorite porn star. It’s a thought we can’t help but cross our mind when we’re watching porn – what would you do if you were there? How would you pleasure them, and they pleasure you? Like all of us would be, Cintia is clearly nervous at first, giggling nervously and speaking quietly. But Owen approaches her with confidence and care, giving her a hug.

As Owen is a huge porn star, and Cintia is a fan, there is a major power dynamic between them. In the context of a sexual relationship, a power dynamic refers to the ways in which control is exercised between partners. This can encompass who takes the lead, who makes decisions, and how each person’s desires and boundaries are negotiated and respected. In other words, as Cintia is a fan, Owen has the potential to manipulate and dominate their sexual relationship. There are power dynamics in nearly all sexual relationships (think: gender, race, socioeconomic status, and more), with some more glaring than others. Now, this doesn’t make power dynamics inherently wrong – it just means each partner needs to do their part in addressing this power and acting accordingly.

In the film, Owen Gray and the producers do an excellent job in addressing this power dynamic and ensuring that Cintia does not feel taken advantage of. Cintia’s interviews before and after their sex ensures that she fully understands and processes the situation, helping her consider whether she feels safe enough to hookup in the first place. On top of that, as the person with greater power, Owen approaches Cintia extremely gently, even asking, “how do you feel?” In the end interview, Owen explains, “I was just completely focused on her.” Owen is consciously making space for Cintia to feel empowered, showing how this power dynamic can be appropriately addressed and accounted for.

Documentary + porno
A unique aspect of I’m Obsessed With Owen Gray is the pre and post scene interviews with the stars. As viewers watching the pre-scene interview, we absolutely know what’s coming up – and we can’t wait. The pre-interviews build tension and gets us super excited for what’s next. They also help us establish rapport with the stars. Not all people like porn between two strangers that they know nothing about. Thanks to the interviews, we feel like we know a little bit about Owen and Cintia before the sex even stars. So, when they’re hooking up, it feels even more personal and intimate.

The closing interviews are also an interesting form of aftercare for both the performers and viewers. Rather than just ending the film after the stars climax, the film takes the time to hear about what the performers thought of the experience. These moments also let you, the viewer, relax and unwind after watching a somewhat intense film and (hopefully) reaching climax yourself. Not only is this a great stylistic choice, incorporating these interviews and approaching this film as a documentary is a great way to both build up and decompress after these super hot scenes.

Did you notice?

This film breaks the fourth wall – Owen Gray is a real-life porn star!
This film focuses on more than just the sex – it also explores the deeper connection between these two!
Questions to consider
How did the porn star/fan dynamic play into their sex scenes?
Would you like to have sex with your favorite porn star?
Do you want more films that include interviews with the stars? How did the interview portions impact your thoughts on the film?
Do you have any memorable experiences involving eye contact?