Domliest Dom

Domliest Dom Pleasure Recap

An unexpected switch turns on the sensation play in this steamy hotel room tryst. “Are you my dom?” our lead lady seems to ask, but the role reversal of a lifetime provides the unexpected plot twist our loins didn’t even know we needed.

What You Can Learn:

• Role Play. Wardrobe changes, different makeup or hairstyles and even wigs, can help you feel more comfortable exploring a new or different part of yourself or sexuality.
• Sensation Play. It should begin gradually, don’t just dive straight into intense impact. He started with a feather duster, but there was nothing dusty about this scene, before progressing to bondage. Even then it started with a footrub before heating up with hot wheels.
• D/s Dynamics and Aftercare. The importance of pre-scene negotiation is just as important as aftercare and the sub isn’t the only one who needs or should receive it.

Here are some themes covered in Domliest Dom that you may have noticed:

• Masturbation – She used him as a tool to masturbate herself.
• Hook Ups – Casual doesn’t mean thoughtless. These two had a good amount of communication prior to the scene so they both knew exactly what game they were playing.
• Women on Top – You don’t have to physically be on top to top. She was energetically in charge even when she was on the bottom.
• BDSM – Domming isn’t all about hard edges and control. Being a Dom(me) is about having responsibility more than it is about having power over someone.

Sensation Play

Like all play, sensation play releases a ton of chemicals that are important to understand, both to protect yourself and play responsibly. This includes the ability to temporarily handle more pain (and potentially more easily hurt yourself or others) as well as making you/your play partner(s) more sensitive to stimuli, etc. Understanding the cocktail of play helps everyone have a better time:

Norepinephrine makes you feel energetic and euphoric.

• Adrenaline, a part of creating the fight or flight stress response, decreases your ability to feel pain as well as increasing strength and performance. An easy way to really hurt yourself or others if not taken into consideration.
• Dopamine lights up our “pleasure pathway” and is commonly referred to as the Reward Chemical.
• Prolactin inhibits dopamine intake and majorly increases sensitivity. That feeling when something feels “too intense.”
• Melatonin is a calming hormone that can make you feel tired.
• Oxytocin is commonly known as The Love Hormone and creates a close bond with whomever you’re playing with, which is why it’s important to be intentional about the when, where, why, how, and with whom you do so.

Negotiation and Communication

These are essential ingredients in any and all BDSM dynamics and power play. While I would have loved to see the pre-scene negotiation more explicitly represented so we understood more clearly that the rules of the game weren’t being changed mid-scene (a BIG no-no in BDSM), there were still lots of yummy things to uncover, and I’m not just talking about Isabel’s tits.
I love an acronym and there are a couple good ones I like to highlight when it comes to pre-scene negotiation frameworks. Think of these like an invitation to play, a mutual navigation and collaboration, more than a clinical or legal negotiation. Conversation is lubrication when done intentionally. Knowing all of the following can READ MORE