4 Benefits to Group Sex You May Not Have Considered

Have you thought about trying group sex? 

If you have, you’re not alone. Group sex and/or threesomes are one of the most common sexual fantasies. 

And why wouldn’t be? The thought of getting lost in the chaos of many hands, mouths and…other extremities can certainly whet the appetite…among other things. 

Group sex can be an amazing way to explore your sexual desires and connect on a deeper level with not just other people, but your partner as well.

If the idea of many sweaty bodies definitely tickles your fancy, but you’re still feeling a little nervous, we suggest picking up a couple books on the subject. The Ethical Slut & Opening Up are great places to start. Even if you’re only looking to open things up physically and not romantically, these books can help set up communication skills needed to explore group sex and navigate any big emotions that may come up.

And while you’re looking up group sex online, all in the name of research… check out these 4 benefits of group sex that you may not have considered.

Explore Your Fantasies

This one is fairly obvious. If you fantasize about group sex, it could be fun to bring that into reality. 

But, fun fact: exploring your fantasies (no matter what they are) can actually create a more fulfilling relationship. 

One study showed that exploring your fantasies together can actually strengthen your relationship, whether it’s acting them out or just talking about them.

Start by laying out your fantasies together. Do it while laying in bed, naked, to make it more sexy and less scary. Talk about the things you might like to try during group sex. What types of people would you like to meet? In what ways would you like to play with them? How do you think the experience would make sex with your partner even hotter? Don’t be surprised if this conversation ends in some really hot sex…

If group sex is on yours and your partner’s bucket list, it may be worth diving into a pile of people together. I mean…why not?

Foster Better Communication

If there’s one thing that can be said about people in thriving open relationships, it’s that they know how to communicate.

When you add more people to your relationship, or just your bedroom, that means multiple sets of feelings are involved. You have to learn how to speak your truth pretty quickly if you want to keep things running smoothly.

Jealousy is something that can come up, in even the most secure relationships. It’s important to bring those feelings to the forefront as soon as they come up. Even if you’re only looking to hook up with strangers, communication is vital for having fun, healthy, group sex. Since most of us grew up being taught that jealousy meant that someone really liked you, it can be hard to shake off those deeply ingrained ideas.

When it comes to jealousy, it’s all about progress and not perfection. It’s ok to feel jealous, but navigating those feelings in a healthy way can change a group sex experience from ‘A fun way to spend a Friday’ into ‘The reason you’re such a good communicator’

If group sex is on yours and your partner’s bucket list, it may be worth diving into a pile of people together. I mean…why not?

make Lifelong Friends

It’s totally cool if you’d rather have a more anonymous group sex experience, but getting to know the minds behind those sweaty bodies can lead to some amazing friendships.

If you get involved with swinger communities or the sex party scene in your city, you’ll probably find some likeminded people who are into the same sort of things you are. Both in and outside the bedroom.

There’s nothing like a friends-with-benefits situation where you can grab brunch the day after a great fuck. Plus liking someone’s personality, as well as their booty can make the sexy part of your relationship even better.

It’s Fun!

Group sex doesn’t have to be taken too seriously. As long as everyone feels comfortable and their boundaries are being respected, group sex can be a ton of fun. Check in often with ALL your sexual partners, to make sure everyone is still on the same page. Group sex is only fun when everyone is enjoying themselves. 

But when it works, it can be one of the hottest sexual experiences you can have. When you’re in the heat of the moment, with everyone in the throes of pleasure, all around you, you’re not thinking about how your body looks or whether or not you’re ‘sexy enough.’ There’s so much going on that all your insecurities go out the window and you can concentrate on giving and receiving as much pleasure as possible.

It can be a bit of a sensory overload the first few times, but once you get into the swing of things, group sex can be an amazing way to explore, play and experience sex on a whole new level.

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Group sex isn’t for everyone. Sometimes a fantasy can just be a fantasy. You don’t have to explore absolutely everything in real life.

But if you are interested in trying it, either as a solo participant or with a partner, do your research and figure out a way to play that feels most comfortable to you. You may find there are more benefits to group sex than you thought! Just watch out for flying limbs… 😉

 

 

Meet the author...

Meet the author...

Jennifer Doan is a Confidence Coach, writer and orgasmic activist. She is on a life-long mission  to help feminists own their sexual confidence by amplifying pleasure and giving less fucks. She believes virginity and gender are social constructs, sexuality is as fluid as her iced coffee and that EVERYONE deserves to feel empowered by sex.